I'm scared about having sex?!


Question: I'm scared about having sex?
Okay so the thing is, I'm terrified.
Me and my boyfriend have been together a while now and he's not a virgin but I am.., that's not the bit that scares me. We're totally ready for it and I am 100% percent certain. He isn't trying to pressure me, he hasn't even asked me, but I know we both want to.
But, the pain scares me, I tried to masturbate with a toy (dildo) the other day, and i couldn't get it up.. it hurt a lot and that's what I'm scared of. I'm 16.
Please don't tell me I'm not ready.. I'm just terrified of the pain, and if he can't get it in..
What do I do?"/

Answers:

Everyone has different opinions about age and stuff but you seem like you are ready and its not like you are under 16 so don't worry about them grumpy old people, they probably don't get any.

It hurts differently for different people, the more relaxed you are the less it will hurt. and even if it doesnt work out first time, thats fine, happened to me and I was just like "fail" and just tried again later.

If it doesnt work, I know it sounds gross, but over a small period of time, just stretch yourself out with something unyill you gradually get bigger.

It will be fine x



Well, at first it will be painful since its your first time. But, eventually the pain will will go away. When you're about to have sex, make sure you use lubricant, especially for first timers. One more thing, since you're a virgin, do not masturbate with a dildo, it kind of destroys the concept of being a virgin. It may seem that nothing will fit in, but it will.



Talk to him about it. I won't tell you that you're not ready, because it sounds like you are. It will hurt at first (I haven't had it, but that's what I have been told numerous times) but if you talk to him about it he will go slowly and it it hurts he will stop...
I don't know him (obviously) but that's what any decent guy would do.



http://www.avert.org/first-time-sex-stor…

Please go to the above site and read the stories of other people who had sex for the first time.
You are terrified. Then you should reconsider and wait.
You are calling it "SEX". The first time should be for "Love", and I personally think you shouldn't do it until you are in love and older.
If you want me to tell you what to expect, sorry I won't. If you do go ahead with it anyway, make sure you both use protection.



Sorry to tell you this darlin' but it's gonna hurt and you'll probably bleed a bit. Sure wish you'd save yourself for marriage. Once you give this away you can never get it back and your wedding night is forever tainted. Up to you though. Also, be sure you're ready to take the risk of pregnancy. Condoms are not foolproof, nor are BC pills. :(



if you are so scared don't.

but its fine honestly, i think people just over exaggerate

put both your hands on his hips so you control and if it hurts stop him, and carry on slowly.

foreplay beforehand! + just saying, lube makes all the difference, it may feel uncomfortable at first but just take it slow,

hope i helped



Why the heck are you having sex at 16?

Legally you may be mature enough but it's quite evident that emotionally you are not.

If your boyfriend isn't a virgin then he's probably looking to conquer you. It's a game to him of how many girls he can deflower.



First thing is relax! being uptight is not going to help at all. If you are both ready and he is gentle with you then you will be fine. Make sure you use protection at all times though.



I f u r scared that means u arent ready. If ur scared of the pain try using some lube and relax ur muscles down there. U may still have a little pain since ur a virgin but its not that bad.



Ask him for a "tongue tornado". Your gate will open widely and the stallion will fit perfectly with no pressure.



If you were ready, you wouldn't be terrified about it.

I refuse to give minors sexual advice. Good luck.



Just take some shots and get some lube, its all good. It will hurt maybe or maybe not. Just take it slooow.



What do you mean you couldn't get it up? Those toys kind of come that way already.



do your azz first. That will help.



use lube and relax.



It's just because you're a virgin, so you still have your hymen in tact, most likely; which is causing the pain when you try to do that. Vaginal insertion is not the only way to achieve orgasm, clitoral play also works, and most woman can't even achieve orgasm from vaginal insertion only!
It'll hurt your first time, but it does for almost everyone. When it comes time, don't pressure it, just let it happen. Relax, and try to ease your muscles, there'll be a little pain the first time, but afterwords, it'll be fun! Your first time might be awkward too, as it usually is, but don't worry, like I said, after that it'll get more fun every time[=
BTW, PLEASE please please use protection. Whether it's a condom or birth control, or both.



You need to make sure that you are safe and use appropriate protection. Condoms work great, use only water based lubricant, or the condom will most likely break or the pores will open up and can let things through, pre-*** or pre-ejaculatory fluid can contain sperm so be careful for that.

And so what if there is pain and he can't get it in, sex isn't always perfect like you see on tv. it is messy and potentially painful. you could bleed and it isn't going to flow nicely. you could even be sore for the next few days.

don't resent people for trying to help give you advice. If you are not ready for what comes, or what could possibly come, maybe you aren't 100% ready, and only 80%. think about it, it is a big decision, even though it may not seem it to you now. Just be sure to be safe and look out for yourself and your body.



-i was really scared to ! and its dead weird feeling the first time. i didn't bleed the first time as some say. but it was quite painful. i will never forget it though is was a worring and exciting feeling. and if you feel like your ready then go ahead and do it. but talk to your boyfriend about it tell him you would but your just really nervous and im sure he will understand you.and yes do use a condom i was Rather silly and thought i was ready for a child ! and i was only 15 im 17 now by the way ;) haha ! i ended up killing the little egg inside me as i got pregnant i was really scared and worried what my mum and dad would say ! use a condom please you do not want to end up like i did! it ruined my life!!




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