Help! Serious Answers ONLY?!
Question: Help! Serious Answers ONLY?
Its really frustrating that I can't make love to my current boyfriend, he says its not all about the sex and I know its not, I just want to have that closeness again. I don't know whats wrong with me. Please give me helpful advice. Thanks
Answers:
There are too many variables here to give you anything close to an accurate answer. It could range for just lack for sleep to a problem with your hormones to a psychological problem to just not enough romance (late nights on the town or him and you together for a day of fun).
The first thing I would do is schedule a vacation of the two of you, one day where it's just you by the pool or at the spa and one day where the two of you can spend the whole day together just talking and getting back close to each other. But take the vacation AWAY from home, even if it is the hotel across town, change your environment so it's just the two of you with no family or friends (turn OFF the phone!).
If you continue to have problems after the vacation, see your doctor and have your hormone levels checked. If medically there is nothing wrong, then it is time to seek counseling - a sex therapist - or end the relationship. Sex is important in expressing the personal need of that person in your life. It is not a requirement for a relationship, but it could break one too.
i suggest do anal and the closeness will come back