is it weird that i am 19 and I'm dating a 44 year old guy?!

"Weird" is a hard question to answer.

It's *uncommon* to have such a large age gap in a relationship. Most people your age tend to date people closer in age to themselves, so you may find that the age gap in your relationship may be a challenge for you. It sounds like you have a family that disapproves of your relationship, and that can also make it stressful, regardless of any other issues.

Whether or not you should stay in the relationship is ultimately a question you'll have to answer yourself. It can be helpful to talk with friends who know you, or other family members to get a good sense--often the advice of friends and family on relationships is good advice, as these are the people who know you best.

Good luck to you!

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When I was 18(last year) I dated a guy who was 33. It didn't quite work out. We didn't have a lot in common because we were raised in two very different generations. We didn't really need to know if you were having sex, its pretty much assumed when you date someone that much older than you that they are going to want sex. I cant say if he is using you for sex, but from my own life I would say listen to your family. Mine turned out to be right about him. Sometimes when you are in a relationship you are so in love with the person that you dont see everything that your family/friends see.

He does just want sex from you. Seriously, how much can you possibly have in common with this guy? You are a toy to him, if you're okay with that, then fine, so be it, you're an adult it's your choice to make. But do not mistake his feelings for you as true love, because they are not. Of course he is supportive of you and your goals, being that way is getting him what he wants.

Don't believe me? Tell him you don't want to have sex anymore, and just enjoy being together and spending time together without it. See how long he sticks around.

You have to think more to the future....you want kids? If you had them right now he would be a senior citizen when they are in high school. It's not fair to the kids. Right now however, I believe he probably is just using you for sex and a trophy. Just don't get pregnant.

what do you mean what should you do?
if you love him that much, you wouldnt care what your family thinks and you can just prove them wrong by staying with him.

by the way, my sisters friend was 18 and dated a 42 year old guy, they had a baby, and he left her.

Obviously you don't know much about life, love, etc.
This is very wrong, and weird.
Find someone of your age, not 25 years older than you.
When you were 5, he was 30. think about that.

He's old enough to be your father!
There are plenty of younger guys out there you could be with, he's not the only guy for you.

Ewwwwww!! He's WAYY to old for you!!