Pain during/after sex?!

If it burns when you pee you may have an infection. Give your vagina a break for few days, skip soap, and instead use some baking soda and warm water (1 tea spoon for a glass of water) wash genitals with that, works like magic! In the future: foreplay alot until you are dripping wet before the intercourse. and/or a lot of lube, please do yourself a favor and go for the expensive but the most natural kind. KY and stuff like that is chemical, nasty, toxic and will cause irritation at the very least. Yuck, read the ingredients on those drug store lubricants: alcohol, paraben etc. Condoms have spermicides too that are you maybe allergic to (if you use condoms that is)
I use unlubricated, no latex condoms and mild organic pure olive oil for lube... Awesome.
ADDITION: If you are truly exited and ready for sex it shouldn't not hurt hun. Oh, and try relaxing your muscles. I mean ALL if them below your belly button. Do NOT expect the pain, and think about how good it feels, and yes TELL him to take it easy! They want to do it like they see in movies, well, this is real life. Its different. You are a human being, and you are fragile.

Sex should feel very good from the first time you experience it. The burning when you urinate sounds like a urinary tract infection, you should get that checked out. You should take a break from sex for about a week since you're sore. Be sure to include plenty of foreplay before actual intercourse----guys like foreplay too! Make sure you're well lubricated by using something like KY gel. See that he uses a pre-lubricated condom too.

your partners may just be too big for your lady parts. try using lubrication (or more lubrication if you already do) and have your partner take it slowly. you may have torn something internally.