why does it hurt me really bad when i have sex?!


Question: Why does it hurt me really bad when i have sex?
most of the time when me and my husband have sex it hurts so much the sometimes when i cant take the pain no more i have to tell him to stop what is it that i have? its a pain really bad on bottom of my abdomen i feel like it hits something but its only when we do it different ways it does not hurt me when hes on top.. so what can it be has some of you other woman have had or have this problem? this has been going on for years already i have been to the doctor and he says i got nothing, is it that i have abnormal periods like once every 3 months or not?

Answers:

If your doctor's cleared you for STDs (chlamydia is a big cause of pain during sex), then it sounds like your husband's probably just going in too far and hitting your cervix. Your cervix is the muscle that forms the bottom floor of your uterus. A lot of women find it painful if something hits their cervix - and the pain can vary from something that feels like a period cramp or an irritating "rubbing" sensation, all the way to a feeling like you just got punched in the bladder.

You may also have a uterus that sits "backwards" inside your body. This is actually really common, but it can often make some sexual positions painful as the penis pushes the wall of your vagina into the side of your uterus.

Both of these problems are shockingly common, but it's often not something that women talk about. I have similar problems with my cervix and uterus, but I've also met a LOT of women who have exactly the same thing. Doctors are often the last ones to hear about it, unfortunately.

In both cases, the key is really in finding positions that don't hurt so much, and often limiting the depth of penetration. If he's very long (and you're not that deep) then he might not be able to get all the way in without reaching your cervix. Sorry.

Missionary position often works well (provided he lies down on top of you and doesn't sit up), as do other positions like Spooning or any of the girl-on-top positions. If you have pain when you're on top, lean forward. This will tend to make his penetration shallower and pull his penis away from your cervix.



Sounds like it's position specific, so I'd start investigating there. He might simply have you at a bad angle.

Either way, I would ask for some more tests. That's worrisome.



I just looked up info on it and they said it could be a STD or infection so I would go to the doctor asap



Go to a doctor.



It is called a cruel act of god...



tell him to be gentle



I'm sorry to hear that things are this bad for you having sex with your husband, how long has this been going on for? If it's been ongoing can you live with this for ever? If not or the thought fills you with despair then you should have a smear test done and an examination to ensure everything is in it's right place. Is it that sex in some positions is so much more enjoyable that he's being a little rough in his enthusiasm? It's possible for the penis to push against the cervix giving rise to pain in the area. If you had pain and no way of relaxing every time with sex we'd be looking at a more serious terror of having sex full stop with a muscle spasm in the vagina. With experiments on sexual positions it should be possible to identify 2 or 4 that you both equally enjoy. Having kids can stretch things better and then hopefully avoid these difficulties. Is your hubby being supportive about this?




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