Regret having sex with my first boyfriend?!


Question: Regret having sex with my first boyfriend?
Hi everyone,

When I was 14 years old, I had my first ever boyfriend & he was 17, yes I know age gap was bad to say I was 14. And we lived 40 miles apart as we met on a holiday, after 3 months of being together we decided to have sex & obviously he was my first. We was together 10 months then I split with him as I realized we wasn't right together. Also for around 3-4 years across my teenage years of 13 - 15 years old, there was some incidents with my sister's ex-husband, as in sexual incidents. I wouldn't like to say exactly what he did to me on here, but I can make it clear that he did not rape me, just things that made me feel uncomfortable. I'm now 17, almost 18, & last weekend me & my current boyfriend have been together for one year. I am in love with my boyfriend & I trust him with my life, we get on so well & we talk about everything. He knows about my ex's & the situations with my sister's ex-husband. But I can't get over how much I regret having sex with my first boyfriend, and with the situations with my sister's ex, it's really starting to have an impact on mine & my boyfriend's sex life. There's these little things in the back of my head & it lowers my confidence like hell, if anyone else has been in the same situation before, you may understand how I feel. Any advice on what I could do to forget about my ex & my sister's ex-husband?

Answers:

You were young and vulnerable and those guys took advantage of you but you do have to move on and put it down to experience. You are lucky enough to have a lovely boyfriend whom you love and trust, tell yourself this is the first time you have had sex with someone you love and be thankful for him. Don't give those others head space. Good luck.



My god.
I have no idea how to answer that.

Have you tried to go to a therapist?
Talk to a therapist about how you feel, about your regret, everything.

Let yourself cry. Understand your situation. Therapy helps greatly.



probbably talk it over. It was painful, rightfully so, but you need to realize why it still haunts you. I'm hoping your bf is understanding about this. Maybe if u work through it together u can move on. best of luck



Aw, :( u can't do anything about it sorry




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