kinda awkward masturbation question?!


Question: Kinda awkward masturbation question?
I am 14. I have been extremely stressed out recently and someone told me to masturbate to make that better. Apparently it lowers your blood pressure and everything.

But I tried and I can never get it to feel really good like people said it would. I heard people look at pictures to get them in the mood but I would feel really dirty doing that. So how do I get it to work, does it take some practice or something or am I just screwed up?

Answers:

Honey, you're not screwed up. The first time you masturbate is always awkward.
My therapist used to tell me this: (I thought I was screwed up when I tried to masturbate for the first time too, so I saw a therapist)

"Listen. Masturbation is intimate, with yourself. Take it as slow as you need. Nobody is forcing you to do things you don't want to do. Just remember that masturbation is how you find out what makes you feel good. Don't feel guilty. It's normal. It's not dirty. It feels good, It's why you do it."

The reason why you haven't been having orgasms or anything is because you feel guilty, which is completely normal the first couple times. Just breathe and remind yourself that it's normal, and your sexuality is *nothing* to feel guilty about.

Also, you talked about not feeling turned on. Looking at dirty pictures or videos is ok. Fantasizing is chill, too. It's all good. Find out what turns you on. This is exploration. :)

If you have any concerns message me anytime :)
that's what i'm here for girl.



From experience, there are different ways you can try to have it feel as good as you imagine. What works for one person doesn't work for the next. I don't want to be inappropriate by being graphic, but by trying different methods you'll come across one that is satisfying. On the other hand, it's not abnormal for it to take some time to find what you enjoy. Everyone starts masturbating at different times, and it's especially hard for girls to find the right spot or method to experience an orgasm. Also, looking at dirty pictures could be desired by some, but others might use their imagination, read something erotic, watch a sensual movie, or think of nothing sexual at all. You are among millions of girls who are searching for the way they enjoy masturbating, so don't feel like you're odd or dysfunctional. If you want ideas, there are multiple sites that can help if you choose to search "masturbation techniques".

Personal experience



You are not screwed up. Not everyone gets off on masturbating - for whatever reason. And it doesn't necessarily lower your blood pressure either. If masturbating isn't doing anything for you (and it obviously isn't!) there are a lot of other ways to relieve stress like yoga, exercise, deep breathing - even just going for a good walk can help.
You don't say whether or not you are sexually active - if you aren't, this could explain why masturbating isn't doing it for you. Perhaps when you discover the joy and fun of good sex then masturbating will come (no pun intended!) more naturally to you.



You are perfectly normal; do not need any gabage "to look at" to remember how good a good meal is, neither.

Just feel where your "spot" is; play until you recognize the place and exice it, calmly and under no pressure. Get to know your body and trust the Creation God made: the Body. He placed all leveld of enjoyment in our bodies; a good meal, a beatiful scenery, a nice song or melody, an ice cream, etc

Be clean (morally AND phisycally), observing hygene and all will go ok.



Honestly masturbation wont make your stress go away.
Though if you still want to know how to do it right, you just have to rub your clitoris, yes, do not insert anything on your vagina. Rub it till you feel something.. unexplainable lol. Till you climax.

There's nothing wrong with masturbating at least you do it alone not like anyother teen girls who throw their vcard to anybody. LOL

Goodluck!



I know how you feel. I'm a "good girl" and it didnt feel right to do. Just read like dirty things on the Internet or magazines and do it. For the first time probobly keep your panties on. I'm 17 and Iike to still keep them on. Just rub it against an armrest or something hard when no one is home
Lol



Get really relaxed and just rub your body at first. Then try masturbationg, email me if you have questions pacyber19@gmail.com



you cannot force yourself to do that..do only when you are in mood..fantasise!
thats all i can say




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