My mom is trying to destroy my relationship now that im pregnant & Im starti!


Question: My mom is trying to destroy my relationship now that im pregnant & Im starting to have second thoughts?
Im 25 and i've been with my partner for a year and a half, He is 39 and i love him so much, Im from the US and he is Russian but lives in London. I was previously engaged but that ended a few months before i met my new partner as he had cheated on me and i left him. My partner wants me to move to London to live with him as he is based there because of his business, He also has homes in Russia, Monaco & Italy, When i first met him he kept clinging to me to let him take me out but i didn't give in until a month after we met as i didn't want him thinking he could click his fingers and he'd have me, I see now that that was pretty childish. He is so affectionate & always tells me that he feels like he cant be without me for even a second & that he does be miserable without me. When we are together he always touches me, holds my hand, kisses me, puts his head level with mine & tells me he loves me, how happy i make him & that he would sacrifice anything to see me smile. He has proposed to me last month but i told him i wasn't ready, He told me he wasn't going to stop asking until i said yes. My mom doesn't like him and says that he doesn't love me as much as i think & that im just blinded by his money & that i wouldn't know what true love is like if it hit me in the face, which is a lie,I swear to god, I love that man like crazy. I found out two days ago that im two months pregnant with our first child and i was so excited about it until my mom lectured me and now im afraid to tell him about it as my mom has gotten into my head making me think he may not really love me as i once thought, or is it just hormones making me like this? Advice Needed?

Answers:

You are 25, you are entitled to your own life. You will make mistakes in life, but your mom's job is not to tell you what to do at 25. She can give you advice, but not order you around. She seems like she is just really worried about you moving that far and taking that big of a step in life. I agree with Amanda in that it's a good idea to give London a trial run, nothing permanent yet. He sounds like a nice guy, a bit pushy and emotional though. Go with your heart and don't let anyone get in your head. I would wait to tell him about the pregnancy till you're sure he's what you want. Make sure this is a risk worth taking. Go easy on your mom because she just doesn't want you getting hurt, though we all get hurt sometimes anyway :p. I wish you and your baby all the best and a wonderful life :). Hope this helped and good luck!



You shouldn't have been dating someone who is 14 years older than you...

These relationships always end poorly.



Hmmmm.... The way I see it, you have two options; either you follow your Mother's advice and leave him (possibly terminate the pregnancy) OR you go with your possibly hormone-addled gut and marry him.

If you go with your first option, you stand to lose not only a possibly great & loving partner, but the father of your child. From the sounds of it, your mother still sees you as her baby, and the thought of you running overseas to get hitched terrifies her. If you choose the second option, however, you may end up trapped with a man you & your child would've done better to avoid altogether. In a year and a half, how much do you really know about him?

Before you decide, ask yourself this; have you seen all of these supposed properties yourself, or did he just tell you about them? Do you know EXACTLY what he does for a living (the Russian mob does exist)? Would you trust him enough to depend on him? Does he even want kids?

If you can answer these questions positively (and with NO hesitation), I would go for it. But for safety's sake, do a background check.



I dont know, he may love u honey But U know Mamma's always KNOW's Best!! Think about before u move all that far and pregnant u know maybe go stay with him for a couple weeks and then come back! see how it goes! BEST WISHES FOR U AND BABY! ** he seems a lil pushy and that touchy feely will work ur nerves as the yrs go by I bet!



The child you are carrying is as much his as it is yours. He certainly deserves to know about your pregnancy.

If you truly are 25 years old, you are not a child and should be able to make your own decisions. Don't let your mother influence you so much. Perhaps she's jealous of your relationship?

Tell the father and take things one day at a time.




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