Ladies, please help!! Desperate for advice!?!


Question: Ladies, please help!! Desperate for advice!?
I'm a 25 year old guy...my mom died about 10 years ago and well, my dads a d-bag, so I'm raising my 12 year old kid sister. Yesterday she said she wasn't feeling good and needed to stay home from school, so I let her. I tried asking her what was wrong (stomach ache, headache, sore throat, whatever) and she really wouldn't give me an answer...she was pretty much avoiding me all day and spent a lot of time in the bathroom. Usually if shes sick or having any sort of problem, she'll tell me whats going on...

She said she needed to stay home again today and has done the same thing as yesterday and won't tell me whats wrong....so I'm thinking she might have gotten her first period but doesn't want to tell me?? Shes hasn't wanted to talk to me all day, she keeps telling me to leave her alone, so how should I approach her and ask her if thats whats going on? And if it is her period, I'm gonna need some advice on what to do for her lol. Obviously, we're going to need to get her pads or tampons or whatever, but I'm kinda clueless? Any and all advice appreciated. Thanks!

Answers:

First off, I have so much respect for what you are doing.

It sounds like that could be what is going on, but if you approach it straight out and it isn't what the issue is, she may get really uncomfortable. You could ask her if her issue is an issue she doesn't think you would understand, start from there. Tell her that you are worried and just want to make sure she is ok.

You could also go out and buy some supplies for her, then she may come talk to you about it, or she may just use them and you can grasp what's going on from that.

She is probably going to be to uncomfortable to use Tampons at first, plus she may not know how to use them properly. For that you can google stuff for her instead of having to explain it.

For the time being, I would just by her Always Pads. (Always is the brand) they come in Light, Medium or heavy.
Shoppers, Grocery store, Rexall..practically everywhere carries them. Even Corner stores in case you don't want to go into some big place.

Hope everything is ok. Don't be nervous about talking to her about it. She will appreciate it in the future.



hi,
go to her room or from outside the bathroom door and say 'are you having some girl issues right now? do we need to go to the drugstore?' hopefully she answers you.

if she still stays quiet, ask a female friend of yours to come over and help you talk to your sister, this might help your situation.

if this isnt possible, go to the pharmacy and ask the pharmacist to help you out with picking out the pads or tampons or both for your sister.

hope this helps :)



I would guess she did. When i got mine i never talked to my mom. Maybe you should try and email,textorsomething o her. That or what you could do is buy some pads and put them in the bathroom. Dont buy her any tampons!!!! Then try talking to her aboutit! Good luck!



Just talk to her, be gentle though don't push the answer out of her. Just tell her that you want to help, if she tells you what is going on take her to the store and buy pads for her. Hope I helped



No little girl would want to talk about this to a guy!!! Try getting an aunt or co-worker (GIRL) or friends to help.



first off when she tells you to leave her alone LEAVE HER ALONE!!! idk about her but i know for sure that i get real annoyed while im on my period. Most girls don't like to tell there brothers bout that i know i didn't so just stop talkin about it im sure she knows all that she needs to know most girls normally do just do her a favor and go buy some pads without her knowing just to let you know i would go buy her Always infinity pads they are really good im sure you could ask any girl at the store and they could help you pick some out and then just go put them in your bathroom and leave it alone and i wouldn't start her out with tampons not unless she does ask you about it. Also if you want to be the best brother ever buy her some Midol for teens for any cramps!!!!

im a girl been threw it all(:



This is probably a very embarrassing thing for her to talk about with men, even if she knows them very well. Don't ask her for details, she probably won't be comfortable talking to you about this. You could sit with her and ask her calmly if she has got her period, or if it's something else that's bothering her. If she tells you it's her period, simply tell her it's normal, every woman has it someday.

If you really don't want to talk about that, or if you think she won't want to talk to you, you could also buy her a box of pads and leave it in her room (or bathroom) with a note, to let her know you're there for her. Buy a box of the smaller ones, not the super maxi ones, since she is young. You can ask advice someone at the drugstore, explain the situation, they will help you. :)

Good luck!



How nice of your to take care of your sister I"m 26 and I have 11 year old niece that I take care of all the time so I know what you mean :) First of 12 is a difficult age but the best way for you to have your sister talk to you is to leave her alone for a couple of minutes and she will eventually come and talk to you.

Getting your period for the first time is a little scary and intimidating. Do you know any of her friends you can call and have them come over and try to talk to her? Are you close to your aunt? or do you know of a female figure that can come and speak to her? If NO, then go to the store buy her maxi thin pads or any thin pads and a bottle of some (midol, ibuprofen or advil) in case she has cramps and leave them in front of her door.

Try to get one of her friends to come over and talk to her just in case is not her period and is something more serious. 12 is a difficult age but be patient with her :) Good Luck.



Pads are much better for girls that have not been sexually active. I recommend just going out and buying medium sized pads for her, the ones with the wings are better. I would also ask her if anyone at school has been bullying her and if she won't answer, I would talk to the school. I would also buy panty liners for her that are the thin ones and keep them next to the toilet so that she knows that she has them. Buy some Midol for the cramps, headaches, back ache and sore breasts that she is going to have. Make sure she has a purse that she can keep these in for being at school. It's very embarrassing for a girl, and if you just get them and leave them there, she will notice. I would first rule out that it's not something that is going on as far as school. Let her know what's going on with her that you're there for her, you won't get mad and are there to help , and that she shouldn't get embarrassed. First I would buy the pads because sooner or later she will need them. Keep a trash bag next to the toilet and if you see wrappers then you know for sure that's is what it is.lol, and if not, talk to her, if all else fails, I would take her to a counselor. I wish you the best of luck

Mom & Counselor




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