Never had sex...curious...?!
Question:
Never had sex...curious...?
So, I am waiting until I am married to have sex. But I keep hearing that sex really hurts the first time. Is this true? And is it messy the first time? And how do I make it less painful?
Answers:
There must be something in the air.......
As clinical as possible, there can be pain when the hymen breaks upon penatration. There can also be some blood.
The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the vagina if you're a virgin. I say "sometimes" because, even if you haven't had sex, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It's not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)
When you're turned on, the uterus and cervix rise, lengthening the vaginal tube. When his penis penetrates, the walls of the vagina stretch to accommodate the difference.
For some, the first few times make you feel sore, as it's been an unused muscle or even hurt, if you aren't properly lubericated, like the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.
When the guy ejaculates, there is a mess, most of it is inside of you. Keep a towel handy. Be sure to pee before you fall asleep after.