I am 26 and I can't have orgasm's....serious answer please?!

I am 26 and I can't have orgasm's....serious answer please?

I am 26 years old I am married and I have a child. This is kind of embaressing for me but I feel lke if there is someone out there that has been through this and maybe can share some knowledge with me I would appreciate it. Me and my husband have been together for almost 7 year and in that time he has been able to give me 2 orgasm's. Not for a lack of trying...it is just really hard for me to achieve an orgasm with anyone else but myself. I can please myself at least 90% of the time but I am sure I am not experiencing what other people do. Plus my orgasm's when I reach them are always from outter stemulatin and never from intercourse. This is becoming a problem in my marriage.....it makes my husband feel like less of a man or like what's the use trying and it makes me frustrated to the point of crying and not wanting to have sex anymore!! Since my son has been born we have sex maybe 1 a week...I need help! Please if you have had this problem any feedback would be appreciated.

2 weeks ago
No my husband's penis is fine. I had been with other men bfore my husband and none of them had ever been able to give me an orgasm....

2 weeks ago
We have tried the toys and the lubes....we have tried everyting obvious. Nothing seems to work....

2 weeks ago
You think it could be hormones? Is there anything a doctor can give me to help balance out hormones?

2 weeks ago
Maybe ya'll are miss understanding me. We have tried all of this stuff. We are open minded people we talk we watch porno we have tried toys he knows where my g spot is....I know whre my g spot is....but short of me masterbating for like half an hour I don't have orgasm's.

If I were you I would see either a gynecologist or a urologist. There could be medical, physical, or psychological reasons for this. A MD in either of these specialties should be able to help you with this.

Foreplay until you are close to orgasm may help. You may have to tell your husband what feels best to you and even take his hand or finger and show him.

If you are having performance anxiety (women can have this too.) A common exercise to help with this is for you and your husband to make love 8 or 9 times without either of you coming to orgasm. You plan to have your orgasms by masterbaiting during this time.

The idea of this exercise is that when you get together during theses times there will be no worry/anxiety about whether either of you will have an orgasm or about how intense it will be.

It forces you and your husband to focus on giving and receiving pleasure with the one you love rather than focusing on the orgasm. If possible, try to do the 8 to 9 exercises within a 2 week time period. If you can only do this once a week then I would only do it 3 or 4 times.

One of the psychological reasons for having problems with this besides performance anxiety is unresolved anger issues. If you have some anger issues with your husband, why not talk to him about them and come to some resolution about them.

I encourage you to see a MD as I mentioned earlier because this could be purely a physical or medical problem. There may be some low hormone levels, for example.

I hope that something I've written has helped. One of the benefits the exercises may do is to give you and your husband some fun by experimenting with different things when having sex. You could even try acting out fantasies, you know, like the shiek and the harem girl. Whatever you and your husband would have fun with.

I just read the answers before mine. If you have to masterbait for 30 min., you might have anorgasmia. This is a frequent side effect of antidepressants and I have it. Please check with a doctor.