Graphic question about a physical exam. (Be warned) Help please?!

Graphic question about a physical exam. (Be warned) Help please?

Okay. I had an exam today, the first one. I am sexually active and thirteen but my mother doesnt know.But she does now. Long story and I'm scaredd?
I went in and filled out paper work while my mother talked to the docter. They're friends. Then a nurse took me in to the room and asked me if I was sex. active, she said the only one she could tell was the dr. So i said yes. She told me I shouldn't be and I was too young then wouldn't talk until the dr came in. I was in a paper gown which he asked me to remove. He said he'd gone over the exam with my mom and I could ask her about it later. I did all the not invasive stuff, height weight etc. Then he asked me to remove my gown. the nurse was still there but turned back on, organising a cupboard or something. I did and he said he was going to look at my back first. he ran his hands down my back, asking if it hurt anywhere. Then I rolled over and he did the same on the front but not on my breats or private area. More details in a minute ....

2 weeks ago
then he said he was going to start the brest exam. He rubbed a wipe over them to clean them. which made me cold and my nipples came out. he pinched each one and I asked wht he was at. He said testing my circulation and to please be quiet. I was and he spent another few minutes doing that. Then he pressed in places on my breast asking if it hurt anywhere. It didn't. Then he moved 'down there'. He inserted a thing that was meant to pull open my vagina so he could see in there. He swabbed the side and looked around. Then he inserted his hand and felt around a bit. I asked what he was doing he asked me to be quiet again then said. looking for abnormalities. He said he knew I was active and I nodded. Then he rubbed places outside me. Clitoral area. and asked me if it felt good, if I could feel it or if it hurt. I told him i couldn't feel anything which wasnt true, it obviously felt good. he said to tell the truth and started over. I had to tell him which was embarasing... was this normal?

2 weeks ago
seeing everybody seems soooo concerned we are always safe, use condoms and BC

2 weeks ago
How would you recomend telling my mother that a man she used to go out with and is still friends with sexually abused me in a doctor patient situation. im not being sarcastic .. if someone knows a good way ?

2 weeks ago
freddium - I am not christian so the bottom third of your answer means absolutly nothing to me. I dont care about god or any of those people. I'm not saying you shouldnt and I SEVERELY appreciate the fact that you didnt try to 'convert' me so thanks. Second, I would absolutly positivly NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER have an obortian. Its equal to murder for me. Nor would I give my child up for adoption. I would spend the rest of my life looking at children wondering, is he mine? Am I his mother? just couldn't do it. WOuldnt do it wont do it. If, I got pregnant now. WHich will not happen, I'd keep and love that baby. Just wanted to tell you that and ask you not to judge me for my actions. you dont know me.

Number one, your mother should have NEVER found out. They broke what is called HIPPA. This simply means that it's the responsibility of the nurse and doctor to keep your medical information private, regardless of your age. This is a major health care violation. Number two, although I would have waited longer to become sexually active, it is your decision. Don't let ANYONE tell you differently. If you are sexually active, fine. It's nothing to be ashamed about. It's a personal choice. Number three, the nurse acted VERY unprofessionally. She should have supported your decision and talked to you about ways to have safe sex. It is not her position to judge you. Number four, I don't like the way the doctor handled the exam. I think he should have sat down and spoke with you about your body and what he was going to do before he even did it. Instead, he made you uncomfortable and embarassed. Also, you can talk during a breast and gyne exam. It doesn't mess anything up. Lastly, rubbing his hands over your clitoris is very strange. He asked you if it felt good? Wow, that was out of line. I would have replied back with the same answer you did. That's not part of a gyne exam. The vaginal exam and swabs are normal, but the other thing isn't. I wouldn't trust this doctor (or nurse for that matter) even. You should tell your mom what happened. I'd even think about reporting him to the police. Even though a female nurse was in there with you, she did nothing to stop what happened. This should have NEVER happened. Kudos to you for being honest to your doctor about being sexually active. That's important. It was wrong of them to treat you like they did.