Women and sex after babies?!

Women and sex after babies?

Why is it that women go off sex after having a baby? I have completely lost my sex drive and it's worrying me. I worry that my partner will leave me and get fed up with it. Am I normal and do others feel like it? My partners makes me feel like it's just me which doesn't help. He has been so good with it all so far.

Try not to worry so much, that may be contributing to the problem. It's normal to have a decreased sex drive after giving birth. This feeling can sometimes last for months. A number of factors contribute to these feelings. First, your sex drive has to compete with the overwhelming fatigue that results from taking care of a newborn. New babies are demanding. They require round-the-clock attention and a great deal of physical contact. This can be both physically and emotionally draining. When you finally have a moment to yourself, you may need a break from intense physical attachment, making sex low on your list of priorities. Second, your body is healing from the ordeal of labor and delivery. Major hormonal shifts are taking place that can make you feel off balance. You may also worry that intercourse will be painful, and for many women, the first sexual encounters after childbirth are uncomfortable. Also, your body is still recovering from giving birth, and you may not feel as attractive as usual. These feelings can have a dramatic impact your body image and make you feel less sexy and desirable. Third, you may consciously or subconsciously fear becoming pregnant again. Evolution may help explain this. In nature, mother animals rarely mate when they're busy rearing their young. Their bodies just wouldn't be up to the additional burden of another pregnancy. The same may be true of women. The good news is that most women report that this decrease in libido is temporary. Try taking things slowly with your partner and concentrate on things like sensual massage and foreplay to get you in the mood. With time and patience, you and your partner can certainly rebuild a satisfying sexual relationship. Try getting some new sexy underwear that you feel really good in and strip for your partner. That can make you feel sexy knowing your in control and knowing how turned on you are making your partner. Good luck :-)