Girls only please!?!
Question:
Girls only please!?
ok so, i am having sex for the first time (in a couple weeks) but i am only 15. I know, i know 15 is to young! That is what people tell me all the time and they also say wait till ur married! but this isnt the case with me. I know what i want in life and i want it to happen at the age where u get to have all the fun! your teen years! and i want to start having sex. The problem is i know i am ready i have been thinking long and hard about it and making sure loosing my virginity is something that i really want to do. But now i have a problem. I jus realized that it isnt as easy as i thought! there is actually pain that goes along with it. ok well that is my question. does it really hurt a lot or just a little bit at first? and should i really be worried about the pain or is it not a big deal? i know one thing i am sooo scard! i know that i want to have sex, i just dont know if i can handle the pain. also, people have told me that every girl is different. I need some help here!
Answers:
Honey, it does hurt the first time. You can't have thought it through b/c you don't know all of the facts. If you are 15 and assume that the teen years are when you have all of the fun, here's the time to learn! I'm 30 and having the best time of my life with my husband!
Planning the date you will lose it sucks too. It should be something that you share with a person that you love sooo much.
When your not married, you have to worry about babies, STDs, and the guy that tells how he bagged you. You will be labeled as easy, you will lose female friends or they will talk behind your back.
Plus sex is an emotional thing and even if you just want a one nighter, you will feel a connection that the guy won't and it will break your heart.
Sex is also messy, not like the way you see it in the movies and read in romance novels. There will be a mess to clean up and how romantic can you be if you have to worry about adults walking in on you or catching you?
There are others ways to fool around without having sex. Try those and have fun.
God leads us where we need to be and he says to wait, try it his way. I wish I had waited for my husband. There's all of the awkward explaining of how many you have been with and if you've been tested. Ruins some of the romance.