A sex question?!
Question:
A sex question?
Today, me and my girl were struck with the romantic feeling. But when the sex came, she said that it hurt. It had never hurt her before. We stopped having sex for about 2 months because she developed a bladder infection but she is cured now and the doctor said it was ok to "do it". She said it felt like I had grown another 7 inches. Which I know isn't true at all. I am 17, she is 16. I told her that we should go back to the doctor, but I want to help any way I can because I love her so much. Is she going to be ok? Anyone know what is wrong?
Answers:
Dyspareunia involves pain during intercourse, and it could be happening for a number of reasons. One of the most likely causes is probably psychological...especially if she had pain during her bladder infection, she may (even subconsciously) be worried that it will hurt again. A woman's body naturally acts to protect itself, so it constricts to keep foreign bodies out. Sometimes women develop vaginismus (sounds scarier than it is), which involves involuntary contractions of the vagina.
As other people have said, it could just be that it's been a while, or maybe she needed more foreplay. Whatever the reason, it's probably nothing completely serious. Your best course of action is for her to go back to the doctor, as only a medical professional can determine whether it is a serious problem or not. If it is vaginismus, she/he will probably give her some exercises to try--physical and/or mental.
I'll include some user-friendly links that will help you understand what might be happening and give you some information that will prepare her for a doctor's visit. Don't be afraid to ask questions!