The lowest I've ever felt...advice?!
Question: I've been feeling down lately. Its got to a point where I feel the lowest I've ever felt.
I have dead lines that im never going to meet, even though they have already been streatched to the limits. Im failing most subjects at college and have no time for a social life as Im stuck in trying to catch up with coursework.
I constantly feel ugly and gross like im not good enough. I felt so low that a few days ago I cut myself...its one of the things I promised that I'd never do to myself but I felt like I couldnt stop myself.
I cant tell my family because they dont seem to understand and if i told them i hurt myself i'll feel like ive let them down. I would tell my friend but she has her own problems thats shes just got sorted and shes been the happiest I think shes been in a long time and I dont want to ruin that.
When i fall asleep I wish someone was there next to me hugging me and makeing everything ok.
Please dont tell me to see a therapist...
Any advice?
Answers: I've been feeling down lately. Its got to a point where I feel the lowest I've ever felt.
I have dead lines that im never going to meet, even though they have already been streatched to the limits. Im failing most subjects at college and have no time for a social life as Im stuck in trying to catch up with coursework.
I constantly feel ugly and gross like im not good enough. I felt so low that a few days ago I cut myself...its one of the things I promised that I'd never do to myself but I felt like I couldnt stop myself.
I cant tell my family because they dont seem to understand and if i told them i hurt myself i'll feel like ive let them down. I would tell my friend but she has her own problems thats shes just got sorted and shes been the happiest I think shes been in a long time and I dont want to ruin that.
When i fall asleep I wish someone was there next to me hugging me and makeing everything ok.
Please dont tell me to see a therapist...
Any advice?
sweetie!! i was a cutter for years and it suxs! i know it felt great but c'mon! i actually had withdrawls it was sad! love yourself first! dont ever ever let anybody drag you down.i let other people and it almost killed me! i was a cutter for 5 years! a very bad one too..listen im here to talk i mean it! im here i felt the same way to the t! but i mean im here! its just you need to talk to someone about it before you go to the next stage..and yes there are stages
You need change try something spontaneous really off the wall. You dont want to burn out.
See a therapist. Or find a support group. Sorry but if you're hurting yourself you're way beyond the point where a hug's going make it okay.
Don worry.. I also have this problem very often. Don brood over on unnecessary things. When you feel lonely.. talk to any of ur friends over phone anything to keep urself away from loneliness and other unnecessary thoughts.
Try doing meditation or if u believe in God.. jus sit before him and pour out ur problems.. cry as much as u can
This is wat i did.. hope this helps
See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to cut. "A problem shared, is a problem halved", so see your college counselor, and tell your friend: she will, quite rightfully, be concerned for you, and I'm sure that, if she is a true friend, she would want to know, just as you would, if the situation was reversed. My standard post follows, but antidepressants are unsuitable for young people. Problems with low self esteem, and loneliness/aloneness are common with depression. See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 HYDROXYVITAMIN D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml. When you start to recover, see study tips, in section 13, but it's probably a waste of time, doing it now.
We all have had bad times in our lives. You need to find a few ways to cope with the depression, that's all.
Diaries are good. Every day be sure to write down 5 things that went RIGHT, that you're grateful for. Meditation can help, so can positive affirmations. All three are ways to choose what your mind thinks about. If you take control of your thoughts, and choose not to feel bad, believe it or not, you can drive depression and suicidal thoughts away.
You know how if you try you can convince yourself that you feel sick? It works the other way too, you can convince yourself you feel great.
MEDITATION FOR DUMMIES is a good book, THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING is another. Your local library should have both. If not email me, I'll suggest other ones that are good too.
Try this. Remember the cursed diary in HARRY POTTER AND THE CHAMBER OF SECRETS? Write a cursed diary. Think of a negative thought or bad memory you want to get rid of. Feel it like a dark sludge stuck in your head.
Feel the sludge ooze out of your head, down your arm, and out your hand as you write about the memory onto a piece of paper. Write the memory or thought until you feel the sludge has poured out of your body into the paper. The paper holds that evil thought now.
Take the paper holding that thought and destroy it. Tear it up, burn it, scatter the ashes to the wind. That evil thought is now gone from your mind and your life.
Trust me, it works.
I hope this helps?
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