Need Advice about starting my life over after horror...?!
Question: I am married to a man that thought it was ok to molest my young G'kids. We have been separated for 2 yrs. & 5 months. I have no contact with him at all. He was indicted by a Grand Jury in Virginia. He has dragged this case out forever it seems, his last ploy being mental illness of some sort. I am having a hard time moving on with my life. I lost everything except a few clothes & trinkets. My house is off limits to me as he "beat" me to the no trespassing papers. He bought me a car, then stole it 4 times. I got it back 3 times & gave up, because I am worn out. I am having a hard time in the work area. I am going to lose my car & license due to lack of money. I have made some poor choices in the last 3 years and I am fearful of doing anything. I feel like I could hide in a dark place. My family has been ripped apart by this. I have a son & daughter & 4 g'kids. I am wondering how I can get help to learn to deal with this. I have never been a quitter... but I am experiencing that now.
Answers: I am married to a man that thought it was ok to molest my young G'kids. We have been separated for 2 yrs. & 5 months. I have no contact with him at all. He was indicted by a Grand Jury in Virginia. He has dragged this case out forever it seems, his last ploy being mental illness of some sort. I am having a hard time moving on with my life. I lost everything except a few clothes & trinkets. My house is off limits to me as he "beat" me to the no trespassing papers. He bought me a car, then stole it 4 times. I got it back 3 times & gave up, because I am worn out. I am having a hard time in the work area. I am going to lose my car & license due to lack of money. I have made some poor choices in the last 3 years and I am fearful of doing anything. I feel like I could hide in a dark place. My family has been ripped apart by this. I have a son & daughter & 4 g'kids. I am wondering how I can get help to learn to deal with this. I have never been a quitter... but I am experiencing that now.
take advantage of any resources they have in your area for mental and physical help. and put one foot in front of the other.take it a day at a time if you have to.
and don't be so hard on yourself.
creeps like that look for women alone with small children around them.it can be hard to see it coming.
god bless
You invited him into your kids world so I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't tell us. You'll have to deal with your guilt.
Jesus f.u.c.king Christ, what the hell are you waiting for to get a contract out on this a.s.swipe's head? He does not deserve to be a member of society. It's time to send him off to meet his maker, Satan. There are plenty of ways to kill a person. Cyanide or the "destroying angel" toadstool are your best friends at this difficult time. If you don't feel like doing it yourself, for whatever reason, there are plenty of people who can be hired to take care of that sort of thing. Make a few inquiries, carefully of course. Don't f.u.c.k around with his bulls.h.i.t any longer. Kill him off pronto.
Ignore the first answer.
Start by going to a therapist. Most places have county mental health offices where you can receive counseling, medication, and other services.
Find a laywer. There are many places that can put you in touch with one who will work pro bono. Divorce him and fight for the things that are yours.
You do not share his guilt as long as you acted appropriately to save your grand children from him. Make sure the kids get therapy, try family therapy to help you bond as a family.
Good luck.
Oh sweety I am so sorry you had this experience. There will be a support group for families of victims of sexual abuse somewhere near you. You are as much a victim of this abuser as your gchildren are. Call your nearest mental health clinic or the family court clerks office and ask for information. It will help to be able to talk about this with others who know what you are going through. I wish you well.
cant you get help from the state for now? apply for low income houseing, food stamps until you can get back on your feet?
if your short of money, can't you get free legal services and fight for all it's worth for the house?
i'm so sorry for your g'kids. i hope you them and their whole family get the mental help they need for dealing with this.
i'd probably killed the sob. good luck
Cant you sue him in civil court? Let an attorney handle
the monotonous dealings with the bum. Is there an attorney who will take this based on the fee coming from the settlement.
you should try to find a job first for living a good life and to nourish your children,and try to find a truely and optimistic friend that can help you in every situation.
You owe it to your children to get well. They have obviously been through enough. Seek some professional help immediately so that they can have a full productive life with their mom without harboring any guilt or resentment towards you