HELP!!! - my sister's father in law died today......?!
Question: he has been battling bone cancer for several years and died suddenly today and it's our mom's birthday. My sister is 25 and has been with her husband since she was 17. She suffers from bad depression and only sent me a text message. Now I can't get in touch with her. I have left her two voicemails. I don't know if she is home or I would just drive over there.
It being our mom's birthday and her father in law passing away is going to severely affect her depression. She is going to over-obsess about my mom's birthday always reminding her of her father in law passing away.
What should I do?
Answers: he has been battling bone cancer for several years and died suddenly today and it's our mom's birthday. My sister is 25 and has been with her husband since she was 17. She suffers from bad depression and only sent me a text message. Now I can't get in touch with her. I have left her two voicemails. I don't know if she is home or I would just drive over there.
It being our mom's birthday and her father in law passing away is going to severely affect her depression. She is going to over-obsess about my mom's birthday always reminding her of her father in law passing away.
What should I do?
Offer to come and sit with her -- if that's what she wants.
Offer to bring her over to your mom's -- for the birthday and for a break if she would like that.
Otherwise, go on with the day you had planned, and maybe tomorrow or the next day you can spend time with your sister.
I'm sure her husband has concerns too, ask him how you might best help.
**Consider CLEANING HER HOUSE FOR HER, DOING LAUNDRY TOGETHER.
It might do her well to spend part of her time away from some of the family matters -- take her for a walk in the park --
**Go with her to shop for something to wear at the funeral, if she's concerned about cost, maybe you can help-out.
Be willing to listen to whatever she has to say.
Show her what it means to be family.
I would go visit your sister and your mom. Good luck & I'm sorry to hear that. :(
go and be with your sister, all you can do is lend your support
Help her see a doctor about it. A psychiatrist can help her to untangle the two events. Go with her to see the doctor.
Im sure your sister would appreciate your support right now try calling her or texting but remember her husband must be feeling terrible and she maybe with his family so im sure she is comforting him .Just make sure you are there to support her .
just continue 2 b supportive like u r n don't worry so much somebodies gotta be strong 4 DA fam so be encouraged n let them run there course of pain, sadness, anger and confusion. this wont b easy but u can do it , you'll get through it and so will your fam, I'll pray 4 u
Explain the situation to your Mom (moms are often incredibly cool about this kind of thing) and both of you go over there and offer your support and reassurance.
Try telling her that today she may mourn him, but every year after she can take the time to celebrate his life in her own way, and not dwell on his loss.
About all I might add to the other's advice is don't be too quick to assume that she's going to be severely affected by this - that assumption, and your reaction and behavior around her could be like a self-fullfilling prophecy.
Furthermore, she needs to be strong to help her husband, and in fact, sometimes events like this bring out some real strength in people who normally seem incapable of handling this kind of stuff. So don't dote over her, and hopefully she'll surprise you.
go to her house anyway. if you are worried about her you need to stop at nothing to find her and fast. If she is already severely depressed this is going to have a major impact on her. THe sooner you find her the better. Maybe you can talk her into staying with you for a while until yall heal somewhat. I am so sorry to hear about this. Plesae let me know if you need to talk. You know how to reach me. Good luck on finding your sister. I will pray for you. If you think she is suicidal you know it is illegal to kill yourself so get the cops to elp you find her if you think she might try to do it. I'm in no way suggesting she would but plese just do whate you can to find her. Again good luck and I am praying for you.