When should I disclose I have a mental illness?!
Question: I date a lot. I don't tell the women I meet I have schizoaffective disorder, am disabled from it, don't work, am on SSI disability income, and take 4-5 different meds per day to stay half sane. Am I deceiving these women by not disclosing this until they've fallen for me?
Answers: I date a lot. I don't tell the women I meet I have schizoaffective disorder, am disabled from it, don't work, am on SSI disability income, and take 4-5 different meds per day to stay half sane. Am I deceiving these women by not disclosing this until they've fallen for me?
You are right to not go around with a sign hung around your neck, announcing to the world that you have a mental disability.
I hope you do live your life in a manner that is as "normal" as you can possibly be.
As with any friendship, the deeper the friendship, the broader the amount of information that is shared between you. It goes both ways. They need to be sharing of themselves with you.
Given that your time is so open, and you do have an income, probably the fact you're on disability would come-up fairly soon in the relationship.
More personal facts, such as being on medications, are more private and personal, so revealing those bits of info would come later on in a relationship.
Probably where you're likely to get questions is concerning your moods. And, it is right for a woman to always be on guard concerning her safety. I would hope that as your mood deteriorates, that you would withdraw to your own home, rather than becoming commanding or demanding.
Like I said, the information provided would increase with the deepening of the friendship. Just be yourself, and ask the same of her.
no. it really shouldn't bother someone.
I'm in the same boat as you, though I'm at 12 pills a day at least. more when I'm having anxiety issues.
I just hope you find the right women. like I said it really shouldn't bother someone.
good luck
hugs and love
StarShine
When a relationship starts to get serious, then you should share this information.
This way you won't be deceiving anyone.
I don't think so. Are they telling you every personal detail of THEIR lives, like if they have depression, or ever had an abortion, or got fired from 3 jobs in a row, etc? You should put your best face forward. Don't deliberately deceive, tho. Once things are serious, you do need to tell.
I had a hard time with that too, but I already had known my (now) husband for a couple years playing cards & stuff. We have a great marriage, even tho I have never found meds that help me. He's a lot older than me & retired, so he likes it that I am home all the time since he is home.
My first husband was in about the same spot as you, but it was a physical problem he had (OK mental illnesses are physical, but nobody says that) and he was on SSI. I didn't mind. Our marriage failed for other reasons.
Good luck to you!
Enigman is a clever screen name!
I deal with sort of the same issue I have severe depression and I let people know as soon as I think that the relationship is getting serious and that there might be a potential for it going some where. I wouldn't want them to think that I was keeping something that important from them.
you are on meds and trying to manage your illness. personally, unless you think you will hurt someone or yourself, do it when you are at least comfortable with your friends. you have an illness you are trying to manage it, and unless you are violent tell them when you are ready, after all you are not contagious. i just dont see any deception, it is not your fault you are ill.
They're going to find out, and when they do, if you didn't tell them, they will leave you.
I have mental problems from a brain injury. I was having problems starting a relationshiop, so I was told to hide it. It worked in finding someone, but it wasn't long before she found out, was upset at me for hiding it, and never let me forget that I was disabled, in seemingly every conversation. We finally broke up because she wanted me to focus on "getting better", which in girl language means "take a hike so I can find a guy who makes more money". You can't win.
Women notice things that are different. You can't keep a secret like that for long. Probably you should on the second or third date, but I don't know you or the women you date, so I only guess.