How can I stop being so emotionally invested in others problems?!
Question: So, I am 26 and back living at home to save 40K so I can buy a house and my folks are not talking to eachother right now. It is driving me nuts - I am like panicky about it. I know I have now place to say anything but would really like a resolution here. How do I stop worrying about this.
Answers: So, I am 26 and back living at home to save 40K so I can buy a house and my folks are not talking to eachother right now. It is driving me nuts - I am like panicky about it. I know I have now place to say anything but would really like a resolution here. How do I stop worrying about this.
Your parents aren't "others." They are very much part of who you are, and how you see yourself. Everyone is emotionally invested in their parents (except perhaps sociopaths). Your feelings are only being amplified by being immersed in it everyday. For all these reason's family is the exception to the rule. You have a right to tell them this bothers you. You have a right to have it bother you. Maybe none of that will fix the problem, but at least it serves to validate that feeling like you do is not wrong.
Some people just can't stop focusing on others problems and situations, even though they may want to. If its your folks, I'd say you may have a right to get to the bottom of whats going on.
brimir7 said it straight up.
Your parents relationship is none of your business. They together or divorced will always be your parents that is your concern only. Ask them if the problem concerns your being there
if you can make it easier what can you do to help more etc. if it is you causing a problem but if not put them out of your mind with a clear conscience and focus on what you need to do.
Couples bicker and fight and argue all the time its normal. Its how they work out their problems when people commit to life long relationships for better or worse. None of your business.
not your problem to solve.
I'm the same way... other peoples problems consume me sometimes... mostly just family. Maybe getting to the root of the problem will help you not feel so anxious and stressed.
you have to accept that you, yourself will not be able to make them get back together. it is their choices and they will live their lives the way they want to. its hard but sometimes you have to let people fix it themselves. I say you should go live your life and let them work it out. as for how to do that, you have to have the willpower to do it yourself.