Is there any way I can help/save my friend?!
Question: I just found out one of my best friends does drugs. Normally, I'd disown a person completely, as I cannot tolerate any manner of substance abuse, but I have known him my entire life and feel that his recent transitions are a result of his home life. Is there anything I can say or do to get him to stop before he gets himself killed?
Answers: I just found out one of my best friends does drugs. Normally, I'd disown a person completely, as I cannot tolerate any manner of substance abuse, but I have known him my entire life and feel that his recent transitions are a result of his home life. Is there anything I can say or do to get him to stop before he gets himself killed?
You can't save your friend. They have to save themselves. You need to be honest. Tell him how bad the road is that he is heading down and possibly seek help from someone who is skilled in dealing with addicts.
Sometimes, someone needs to hit rock bottom before they realize they need help.
Let him know that you understand he is hurting, and that you are now hurting too. Ask him if there is anything that you can do to help him. If he is just starting out on drugs, now would be the the best time for you to intervene the best ways that you can before he gets truely dependant and addcited to them. Talk to him, and dont go away.
Good luck.
you should talk to him, or write him a not about how you feel about this. If that doesn't work, there is interventions.
http://www.abovetheinfluence.com/
i dunno. maybe you could look at this website?
Drugs is bad. Replace his pills with vomiting pills, and weed with poison ivy.
Get him help. You just might end up saving his life.
If I were you, I would honestly confront the friend and express your concern. In a compassionate way,tell him/her how their drug use effects you. You might ask this person why they think they use drugs. Most people use drugs because they experience a lot of pain, and want to numb themselves out so that they don't feel that pain, as it may feel like too much to bear. Assess for yourself, by your friend's response, what your own boundaries around this situation will be: whether you will able to continue being a friend or not, whether there is a role for you to play to help or not. Some people can be helped, some refuse help and as another commentor stated, need to hit rock bottom before they can face their substance abuse honestly.
Just sit down and talk to him. Maybe all he needs is someone to talk to about all of the crap that he's going through.
Wow. That is a tough one. Good for you to not disown your friend. I used to do drugs (hard drugs) and was addicted and my friends in college stopped talking to me. It made my life hell and I eventually stopped, but it was after I realized I was ruining my life - not because they left me. It's really important to support your friend and spend time with him. The more time you spend with him, the less he will be able to do his drugs in secret - which is usually the way addicts like it when they know their actions are not acceptable. Talk about your plans for the future and what you would like to accomplish and how you will get there. Hopefully, talking about success in life will help your friend realize that drugs are not the way to get there. Don't be judgmental and do not make ultimatums. This will drive a wedge between you and your friend and cause him to not trust you anymore.
have they lost everyone else in there life yet? that's what is going to happen before an addict will even consider change......... in my experience anyways. Make sure that in your persistent faith in him doesn't put you or anyone else in harms way. funny, it kind if goes hand and hand, sorry:(
definitely seek professional help and help of other loved ones who will to go the mile, this is for your sake and the person addicted. Sorry to hear about your predicament
I agree with Mike A entirely. they have to decide to stop themselves, and sometimes they do have to hit rock bottom before they can do that. I will add that telling your friend how upset it makes you that they do drugs may give them some reason to quit, but also tell them that you will be there for them when they need you. that is all you can do as a friend. it is entirely up to them to stop.