Self harming , breavement and depression?!
Question: i have just lost my dad few weeks ago , i suffer from depression which i am on antidepressants for but the meds seem to have just got used to my system as i dont feel as if they are working now, and because of the way i am feeling i have been self harming but i dont want to do this but i dont no what to do ! anyone help ?
Answers: i have just lost my dad few weeks ago , i suffer from depression which i am on antidepressants for but the meds seem to have just got used to my system as i dont feel as if they are working now, and because of the way i am feeling i have been self harming but i dont want to do this but i dont no what to do ! anyone help ?
See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut. Seek therapy, to help you address the cause. Therapists can't help you, unless you are honest with them, and tell them: they hear much worse, and unless you're suicidal, you won't be locked up. My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people, because they have been shown to increase the rate of suicide, homicide, and aberrant behaviour. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, (much more detailed) or the Myspace blog of shaneris, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and Nathanial S. Lehrmann, MD, Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read it, and section 1. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments" of the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy, relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L. It should be above 32 ng/ml. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve.
I'd suggest talking to someone,Things only get worse when you keep them inside.Im sorry you lost your father.
You are lonely and sad. We all must struggle with these same feeling at one time or another.
Your meds were just started. You may not feel better for a few weeks. This alone will not solve your problems you must work on understanding why this is so hard for you to take.
Why has your self esteme dropping. You are not the cause of your dad's death.
Your meds will probably need to be adjusted after amonth or so..The reason they are not stronger now is because the doc did not want to knock you on your but. Hold off on decisions until you feel better including hurting your self.. You do not deserve to feel like you should be hurt.
I also have a problem, so I can relate.
I have no suggestio really, except try to avoid self harming and crush incecubes in youre hand.
Sounds odd, but sometimes works for me and is painful but gives off none of the nasty effects/scars.
Plus nobody will have to know....
There's a great site that offers support for self harming if you were looking for something online:
http://www.recoveryourlife.com
Very helpful people there.
maybe you should go see a psychiatrist. seriously, what good will harming yourself do? It's not going to make you feel any better that's for sure. I know the loss of someone close to you like your father would be a very hard feeling to overcome, but you'll be better. Things get worse before they get better, and if you ever feel like you've hit rock bottom, just remember that things can only get better.