How can i control my anger?!
Question: i am a 21 year olf female,I went to the doctor this morning and he told me i have got an anger problem (which i new already) and on friday i completly flipped and ended up smashing my mobile up ect, the doc told me it was a stress attack. i have got a lot of stress in my life,my mum (who i look after all the time) is mentally ill and drives me mad, my dad has got P.T.S.D and my hubby has just had an operation. most of the time i am very snappy and shouting at everyone all the time and take it out on everyone espiecally my mum and hubby,i no its not fair on them for me to take it out on them but i cant stop myself or control myself. i dont no why i am so angry or what is causing it, but i want to be able to control it but how can i do that??
Answers: i am a 21 year olf female,I went to the doctor this morning and he told me i have got an anger problem (which i new already) and on friday i completly flipped and ended up smashing my mobile up ect, the doc told me it was a stress attack. i have got a lot of stress in my life,my mum (who i look after all the time) is mentally ill and drives me mad, my dad has got P.T.S.D and my hubby has just had an operation. most of the time i am very snappy and shouting at everyone all the time and take it out on everyone espiecally my mum and hubby,i no its not fair on them for me to take it out on them but i cant stop myself or control myself. i dont no why i am so angry or what is causing it, but i want to be able to control it but how can i do that??
allow time for yourself, seems like your always looking after everybody else apart from you.
give yourself some time out.
maybe when u feel like u wanna smash something up, go for a walk and some fresh air, or just listen to some music that u like.
I used to be like you, where everything would get on top of me and would flip - usually hit a wall or throw whatever was in my hand, but since ive been pregnant, the things that used to wind me up to get to that point, i try and avoid and if i dont and feel like i wanna smash something i lock myself in the bathroom, have a bit of a cry and calm myself down cus i know the stress is affecting the baby, i used to also push my partner away when he tried to calm me down but now if he sees me getting angry he'll come up and just hug me tight, which is nice and comforting
hope this helps xx
You could ask your doctor to refer you to a counsellor to help with this.
yeah id suggest counselling, its not as bad as it sounds and its really helpful, talking about your problems really helps..good luck
anger management classes......... or yoga......... relaxing exercises.......
well i don't know if you play or not, but music is the best thing when it comes to anger. trust me i know. :]
That is ok. Everyone has anger, I mean look at axle rose. He survived. But i think you should look for better outlets, anything but anger. I'm sure you've heard of counting to ten, and i'm pretty sure you've tried it. Running, yoga, classes, therepy, and other activities could help. Also remember that everyone gets angry, and everyone has different ways of handling it. Love the world no matter what, and always remember that life is better than death. Also remember that you're hubbie is also going through a hard time and needs the support of his loving wife (you). Don't put distance between you to because that would be unhealthful to both of you at this fragile time in your marriage/lives.
Good Luck!
It sounds like you don't have very much time for yourself and that you have a lot of problems on your plate. Is there anythng you really enjoy doing that you could make time to do regularly. This would give you some "time out" - thinking time and time to destress.
It would be great to do something physical like kick-boxing to try and get rid of all that pent up energy.
You are aware that there is a problem which is the first step to doing something about it. Counselling may help but you can also help yourself. I used to shout at my kids all the time and I decided that I didn't want to any more - so now I try to tell them calmly what's upsetting me. Yes I still occasionally shout - but hardly ever and I feel much better for it.
Decide how you want to be and then be that person - it takes a while, but you can do it. Don't worry about the odd slip up - you will get there.
Good luck!
right now id say u cant. u can try to be calmer and think more before u speak, u can take drugs or whatever, or counseling, but after some time ull be sick of it, and then ull gonna say what ya wanna say, no matter what ppl think or feel about it. cause deep within yourself u know its true, cause otherwise u wouldnt say i. the truth aint always nice u know. things dont change easily. normally they only change when they have to kinda. so controlling your anger is pretty easy, just be calmer. but iam pretty sure it wont solve your problems. and the problems are what make u feel so angry in the first place. so start solving the problems instead of the anger.(or somehow the anger will solve it for u on the long run)