Is this the norm for people with Borderline Personality Disorder?!
Question: I've known this girl with borderline personality disorder for about two weeks now and in that time shes emailed me approximately 900 times give or take fifty here and there its already been established that she has feelings for me but cannot seem to get over the fact that I am in actual fact engaged.
In the emails to me shes hinted at hurting herself to me and how wants to do it and today I get a further email from her explaining to me how she just got back from the emergency room.
I dont consider myself to be a heartless person but I feel she really wants my attention and care but I have never handled someone with BPD before is there a right or a wrong way about this.
Part of me feels shes taking this out on me as well now.
Answers: I've known this girl with borderline personality disorder for about two weeks now and in that time shes emailed me approximately 900 times give or take fifty here and there its already been established that she has feelings for me but cannot seem to get over the fact that I am in actual fact engaged.
In the emails to me shes hinted at hurting herself to me and how wants to do it and today I get a further email from her explaining to me how she just got back from the emergency room.
I dont consider myself to be a heartless person but I feel she really wants my attention and care but I have never handled someone with BPD before is there a right or a wrong way about this.
Part of me feels shes taking this out on me as well now.
Yes unfortunately her behavior is classic for Borderline Personality Disorder. She is trying to get attention from you whether it be good or bad.
I would strongly advise that you cut off all communications with her for your own good. You could be putting your engagement at risk for one and I believe as this goes on, it will only get worse.
It is common for people with this disorder to be loving one moment and vicious the next. They are very unpredictable.
Please for your own well being and safety, cut off all ties before you get hooked in further and it is much more difficult for you to do so. You are not being heartless, however you have to make a decision regarding what is best for you.
I have added some links in the Sources sections on Borderline Personality Disorder that should give you more insight into the disease and what you could be facing should you continue to remain friends with her.
Please, save yourself!
Do you know anyone she knows? Try to talk to her parents or another friend of hers. She needs some help. It is good of you to be concerned for her. Good luck.
Meozie, Is right. Know that no matter what happens to or with this girl is not your fault. People with BPD can be dangerous. She does need help, but it has to be from professionals. Cut ties even if it means changing your e-mail and number. If you are a praying person, pray for her, but don't feel bad about cutting ties. I've been there where you are.
for a good fictional depiction of bpd, see "the sopranos" - tony's mother and the car dealer that he dated were classic cases. "normal" people are typically unable to understand/deal with bpd people. i would recommend consulting a mental health professional to discuss her behavior and how you can deal with it.
even if you were with her, she would be acting largely the same, emailing you constantly is very common, so is all the drama, and the self harm
I also suggest not getting married, it sounds like you are unfaithful and fooling around, or trying to