Please help me- I dont know what to do!?!
Question: About a year ago, I moved out from my moms apt. 2 months BEFORE the lease was about to expire.
I took out a loan on her behalf, gave it to her to help her, & she is making pmts on it,
gave her an addl. $700.00 & some furniture to make up for the last two months of rent that she needed. I dont think I screwed her over.
Now she is looking to move out to a 1 bdr apt & she cant move out because she has no money to move out w/ nor can I lend her the money.
She has asked me to move back in with her, but I said no because I really don't want to live w/ her & I know for a fact that I will be unhappy if I live w/ her again, even if its for only 6 months. But we would both be saving money.
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!
I don't feel bad for moving out, because I DID help her out for those last two months that I left early on. But I DO feel bad for her paying for an apt that she does not really need & is sort of struggling.
She knows that I like being on my own and has supported that.
Answers: About a year ago, I moved out from my moms apt. 2 months BEFORE the lease was about to expire.
I took out a loan on her behalf, gave it to her to help her, & she is making pmts on it,
gave her an addl. $700.00 & some furniture to make up for the last two months of rent that she needed. I dont think I screwed her over.
Now she is looking to move out to a 1 bdr apt & she cant move out because she has no money to move out w/ nor can I lend her the money.
She has asked me to move back in with her, but I said no because I really don't want to live w/ her & I know for a fact that I will be unhappy if I live w/ her again, even if its for only 6 months. But we would both be saving money.
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!
I don't feel bad for moving out, because I DID help her out for those last two months that I left early on. But I DO feel bad for her paying for an apt that she does not really need & is sort of struggling.
She knows that I like being on my own and has supported that.
Tough situation! I agree with Mike; however, I also agree that you can be on your own in your own place,etc. It doesn't always work out to live with your parents. I would not feel guilty at all. Sounds like you did the right thing. You've helped her the best you can while maintaining your own sanity. Help her how you can but it's ultimately up to her how she works it out.
Ask her
Just a little advice from a guy who has lost his mom & dad. Whatever you do, take care of your mom.I know she can be a pest and sure it is nice to live by yourself and all that jazz, but unconditional love is something you will never have again for as long as you live.Im not trying to put you on a guilt trip or feel sorry for your mom.Im just saying life is so short.She can be a burden sometimes,but please dont make her feel like she is.Im sure if was not for the financial ability of your mom, she would love to see you have a place of your own and doing well in life, every parent wishes that,but sometimes you have no choice but to share a home.I would give every material thing I own if I could have my mom back for just 1 day. Be careful what you wish for. Good Luck, Im sure you will make the right decision.God be with you.