Desperate for answers. Sad, 24-year-old Dad.?!
Question: Desperate for answers!. Sad, 24-year-old Dad!.!?
I feel sad and lonely all the time!. I have the "american dream", a wife, 3 kids, and a good job!. Everyone is comfortable and happy except me!. I'm very depressed all the time, maybe because I lost my parents when I was young!. I tend to bottle up my feelings at home and at work!. I'm only 24 but I feel like I'm 50!. I dont want to be sad anymore!. What can I do!? Sometimes I just can't take it and I want it all to end!.
PS-I dont want to see a psychiatrist or take mood-altering drugs!. And HELPFUL advice!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
PS-I dont want to see a psychiatrist or take mood-altering drugs!. And HELPFUL advice!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Find thing that make you happy!. A new hobby or recreation!. Maybe you are so busy taking care of the family, your forgetting to take care of yourself!.
Diet and Exercise are a factor!. Maybe you haven't been eating right or exercising!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Diet and Exercise are a factor!. Maybe you haven't been eating right or exercising!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sappy all i can say is pray! Seek someone Greater than you!. Ending it all is not the answer at all, that's running instead of realing dealing with what is really going on inside of you!. I can tell you from personal experience that a job cannot satisfy you, nor the house you live in, nor how much money you have, nor your spouse, shall I go on!.!.!.none of that is satisfying!. You don't have to stay sad sappy, when you wake up in the morning look for positive things, you've allowed too many negative thoughts to prevail!. Also I found it helpful to be thankful and grateful for the things in your life!. things like your wife, your children, your job, your life, the little things!.!.and as you do this you (will) get to feeling better!!! Peace to you and your family!. HollaWww@Answer-Health@Com
Man, you have a wife and 3 kids!. Depression is a life-threatening, home-wrecking condition!. Even if you don't want to get better for yourself, do it for your family!. Don't let your pride (or whatever it is that keeps you from seeking real help) destroy everything you have!. Go to a psychiatrist and do whatever he tells you to do!. This is the ONLY helpful advice someone can give to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You should take a short vacation with your wife, or maybe even by yourself!. Try to relax and think about all the good things that you have!. You need to let go of the stuff that is making you feel this way!. Move on with your life if you have the "american dream" then what's the problem!. Only you can make things better for yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I really think you SHOULD see a therapist at least!. They can be really helpful!. Explain to him that you don't want to go on any medication!.
For the sake of your kids and your wife (and yourself) talk to someone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
For the sake of your kids and your wife (and yourself) talk to someone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ok, so your avatar is a chick!. are you logged into your wife's account!? you should delete this when you get enough answers, if you don't want her to see it!.
but, to answer your question, maybe you should find some interests outside of the house!. go play poker or basketball once or twice a week with your friends!. but you must let your wife do the same!. i'm a stay at home, so i know what you're going thru!. i feel pent up as hell a lot of the time, so my hubby and i take turns giving each other every other saturday off to go do whatever!. it helps a lot!
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
but, to answer your question, maybe you should find some interests outside of the house!. go play poker or basketball once or twice a week with your friends!. but you must let your wife do the same!. i'm a stay at home, so i know what you're going thru!. i feel pent up as hell a lot of the time, so my hubby and i take turns giving each other every other saturday off to go do whatever!. it helps a lot!
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Often, symptoms similar to those you are describing are unknowingly shared by family members!.
If you have brothers or sisters, confide your situation to them and see if they have ever felt the same way!.
If they have, they can tell you how they've dealt with it!.
Finally, in times like these I've found comfort in prayer!.
Good luck & God Bless brother, you're not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have brothers or sisters, confide your situation to them and see if they have ever felt the same way!.
If they have, they can tell you how they've dealt with it!.
Finally, in times like these I've found comfort in prayer!.
Good luck & God Bless brother, you're not alone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may not want to!.!.but you need to!.!.Start with your medical MD!. there are labs he/she can run to see if something is out of whack!.!.the world will be a happier place for you and the people that love you if you get the depression taken care of!.!.It is no disgrace to see a psych, or take meds!.!.!.Please do it!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Nothing wrong with therapy if you can afford it!. Don't rule that out!. Are you physically active!? Also, taking care of a family isn't the same as spending time with your family!. Do you guys go out and do FUN stuff together!? Fun, non competitive, family outings!. Picnics, camping, rafting, etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's important to know if your depression is situational or pathological!. By that I mean, is there something in your present situation that is causing it, or is it (to put it bluntly) a matter of brain chemistry!?
Situational depression can be dealt with by identifying its cause!. Is there something about your "good job" that you cannot stand and cannot see how to escape!? Is it such a good job that you cannot afford to leave it because of your responsibilities!?
I hope your situation is not that you feel trapped by your family!. It's sad, but it does happen to some people!.
Then there is the fact that some folks are depressive personalities!. Every so often they get very down!. People in this situation sometimes get the urge in their down periods to make major life-changing decisions in the belief that "this is it - all my problems will go away if I just do X" !. Don't do it because you will regret it!.
Finally, the pathology!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.In some cases, depression really is an illness!. It can be severe, but it is treatable!.
Anyway, that's the story!. Let me say first that I don't like taking brain-chemistry drugs and I don't think much of shrinks, many of whom do more harm than good or basically have you talking to yourself!.
Having said that, this thing is messing you up so you need to do something!. First step is, as I said, to decide what's going on!. If nothing pops up to help you decide, you need to talk to someone who can help with that decision!. It need not be a shrink - it could be your pastor if your are religious, or a good and trusted friend who would objectively help you work through things!.
Once you have come to a sound decision as to what's the cause, act on it!. If it's really situational, find an acceptable way to change the situation!. Be careful and don't buy into quick fixes too easily!. If it seems like a medical problem, find a qualified person - not just a Dr!. Feelgood who will prescribe anything, but someone with experience and success in treating depression!. There are such people!
Best wishesWww@Answer-Health@Com
Situational depression can be dealt with by identifying its cause!. Is there something about your "good job" that you cannot stand and cannot see how to escape!? Is it such a good job that you cannot afford to leave it because of your responsibilities!?
I hope your situation is not that you feel trapped by your family!. It's sad, but it does happen to some people!.
Then there is the fact that some folks are depressive personalities!. Every so often they get very down!. People in this situation sometimes get the urge in their down periods to make major life-changing decisions in the belief that "this is it - all my problems will go away if I just do X" !. Don't do it because you will regret it!.
Finally, the pathology!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.In some cases, depression really is an illness!. It can be severe, but it is treatable!.
Anyway, that's the story!. Let me say first that I don't like taking brain-chemistry drugs and I don't think much of shrinks, many of whom do more harm than good or basically have you talking to yourself!.
Having said that, this thing is messing you up so you need to do something!. First step is, as I said, to decide what's going on!. If nothing pops up to help you decide, you need to talk to someone who can help with that decision!. It need not be a shrink - it could be your pastor if your are religious, or a good and trusted friend who would objectively help you work through things!.
Once you have come to a sound decision as to what's the cause, act on it!. If it's really situational, find an acceptable way to change the situation!. Be careful and don't buy into quick fixes too easily!. If it seems like a medical problem, find a qualified person - not just a Dr!. Feelgood who will prescribe anything, but someone with experience and success in treating depression!. There are such people!
Best wishesWww@Answer-Health@Com
You know honey you may not WANT to see a Doctor or take Medication!.!.!.but sometimes there is no other way!.!.!.you say everyone is Happy but you!.!.!.this is telling you something!.!.!.nowadays seeing a Doctor for issues relating to Chemical Brain Imbalance is pretty normal, it is no longer stigmatized!.!.!.there is so much pressure on us as humans to perform well in ALL aspects of our lives that we are bound at times to become dis-heartened!.!.!.you may not even need medication!.!.!.just someone to talk to!.!.!.maybe a Trusted Minister!? I know your plight somewhat!.!.!.you lost your Parents, a tragic blow for a young person!.!.!.I am so very sorry!. Several years ago I went through severe depression due to the loss of my husband and 9 year old son!.!.!.I felt alot of what you are feeling now!.!.!.I received help through a Great Doctor and took anti-depressants for a while!.!.!.I am doing well now!.!.!.raising my 3 beautiful children!.!.I wish you luck sweet-heart!.!.!.Think seriously about getting some Help!.!.!.Everyone at some point needs it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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