My mom is punishing me for cutting?!
Question: My mom is punishing me for cutting!?
How can i get her to lay off, she doesn't understand that
1) i've QUIT!.
2) i have no i desire to cut anymore
3) i know its bad and not normal
4) she's just making me more miserable than i was to start with!.!.!.
She keeps bringing it up and making me feel like crap and i have to go to a psychologist now,
but she is basically punishing me and taking away things that mean the most to me!.!.!.
What can i say to make her understand!?
btw i'm 15Www@Answer-Health@Com
1) i've QUIT!.
2) i have no i desire to cut anymore
3) i know its bad and not normal
4) she's just making me more miserable than i was to start with!.!.!.
She keeps bringing it up and making me feel like crap and i have to go to a psychologist now,
but she is basically punishing me and taking away things that mean the most to me!.!.!.
What can i say to make her understand!?
btw i'm 15Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
take it from someone like me!. i cut i havent stopped yet, i have been doing it for over a year and i know its hard!. it isnt 'not normal' a lot of people do it!. (im doing a research paper on it for CP English) over 20000 people cut each year, so dont think your 'not normal' because of it!. your mom is doing the wrong thing by punishing you!. that is one of the things not to do!. what she should be doing is support you!. ( i know that sounds bad) she shouldnt encourage to cut, but she should be open with you and be there for you!. punishment will just put more pressure on you to cut again!. im the same age as you too so it's not like im some 25 year old man telling you whats right and wrong!. and since you stopped and have no urge to anymore she should take that into hand!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell the psychologist how you feel and have him talk to your Mother,,,,the psychologist should be able to explain to her that you have a problem, and you are aware you do, and that its a psychological problem, you are not just being "bad"!.!.!.!. seeing a Psychologist is a good idea because obviously you do need one, but yeah talk to him about your Mother!.!.!.!.!.Good luck!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She may need to see a psychologist!. I know she is making you feel untrusted!. In her eyes she see's her baby hurting and she cant fix it!. The worst thing that can happen to a parent is to see their child suffer in pain and cant make it go away!. Your mother may believe that she is protecting you because she doesn't know what else to do!. You both should seek therapy together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i was a cutter!.!.!.and i relapsed about 5 times!.!.!.actually i just got out a a relapse!.!.!.its tough sh*t to get through!.!.!.my mom was kinda like that when i tried to stop for the first time!.!.!.shrinks, always bringing it up, which caused me to relapse the first time!.!.!.but it will get better!.!.!.
just a thought!.!.!.when your comfortable!.!.!.have your mom sit in with you in a session with you psychologist so she can see how good your doing and that she has nothing to worry about!.!.!.
good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
just a thought!.!.!.when your comfortable!.!.!.have your mom sit in with you in a session with you psychologist so she can see how good your doing and that she has nothing to worry about!.!.!.
good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah, she needs to lay off you and give you a chance to prove yourself!. Only time will show her that you're trying!.
Serious question!.!.!. Why does one cut themselves!? I'm not being a smartass, honestly!. It's just that I've never done that and naturally I don't understand it!. But I'd like to try and understand!. Do you know why or is it a mystery to you too!? I know I don't understand half the stuff I do!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Serious question!.!.!. Why does one cut themselves!? I'm not being a smartass, honestly!. It's just that I've never done that and naturally I don't understand it!. But I'd like to try and understand!. Do you know why or is it a mystery to you too!? I know I don't understand half the stuff I do!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I went through the same thing when i was younger too!. My mother didn't realize that she wasn't helping but was making things worse!. I think she feels like she may have failed you somehow and to make her feel better is to show you the pain you caused her!. It sounds like she also needs help!. I am now 23!. i also am done with that lifestyle!. The only thing I can say is hang in there!. ( I left when I was 16 moved in with an older sister is there anyone you could move in with!? Something to look forward to when you are 16 type thing!?)Www@Answer-Health@Com
her punishing you wont help the matter!. tell her that!. she needs to hear YOUR side of it!. going to a psychologist may be a good idea though, even if you arent still cutting!. just tell your mom how she makes you feel and tell her she needs to listen to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Thats retarted, her punishing you will only make you want to do it more!.
Tell her you really dont appreciate her telling you have a problem!. & That basically youve outlived it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell her you really dont appreciate her telling you have a problem!. & That basically youve outlived it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well I don't think she should punish you but she should get you help!.She is doing the right thing bringing you to a psychologist but in a time like this you need what means most to you and you should tell her that!.Good Luck!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
talk to her and tell her how you feel and then if it doesnt work then just keep going to the doc!. and soon the doc will tell your mom that you are fine if you are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think cutting on girls is hot, and not always so bad on guys - depending on the overall design!. Just use some antiseptic - don't want any infections!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Let her check your arms or something everyday to see that there are no new marks and maybe she'll get it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get your psychologist to have a word with her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
act all innocent and say ' mum im sorry for cutting i realise its really bad and ur 100% correct' they like it when theyre right!
but seriously are u an emo!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
but seriously are u an emo!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Shes just worried about you !.what has she taken from you!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
LIsten I am a mom and if I found out my daughter was doing something like that I would probably freak out for a time being and then chill out!. She is probably bringing it up because she is scared and Im sorry kids lie to once that trust is broken it is hard to get it back expesically with something that is life threatening!.
As much as she is punishing you she is beating herself up over and over 12 times over inside that she couldnt help you not to do this to yourself!.
Build trust back and you wil lbe fine!. You dont have any right to demand her to understand something that is so horrible (cause you could have died , gotten an infection , anything) !. It takes time!
I dont think your realize how many kids end up wishing they had died from staph infection from cutting!.!.!. first they lose their arm or leg or both!.!.!.sometimes toes first then the rest!. SOmetimes their internal organs give out and their bowels burst and the pain they go thru before death is just unbelieveable!. !.!.!. Its not like cutting isnt serious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As much as she is punishing you she is beating herself up over and over 12 times over inside that she couldnt help you not to do this to yourself!.
Build trust back and you wil lbe fine!. You dont have any right to demand her to understand something that is so horrible (cause you could have died , gotten an infection , anything) !. It takes time!
I dont think your realize how many kids end up wishing they had died from staph infection from cutting!.!.!. first they lose their arm or leg or both!.!.!.sometimes toes first then the rest!. SOmetimes their internal organs give out and their bowels burst and the pain they go thru before death is just unbelieveable!. !.!.!. Its not like cutting isnt serious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i dont have that problem because my mom hasn't found out yet!. i'm trying to stop all on me own lonesome!. X_X and its soooo hard!!!
but you just need to honestly let your mom know that you've stopped and that you dont need her up in your business constantly, tell her in the first place that it is wrong to punish somebody who does that, because it really doesnt help, it makes it worse!.
just tell her exactly what you told us, i think that you got the main ideas right:]
and i think thats so dumb, that people think that this has to do with people being "emo!."
im tired of hearing that!.
its just kind of like!.
shut the **** up, honestly!.
those ignorant people have no idea what self harm or "emo" even is!.
being "emo" and being a self harmer are two totally different things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
but you just need to honestly let your mom know that you've stopped and that you dont need her up in your business constantly, tell her in the first place that it is wrong to punish somebody who does that, because it really doesnt help, it makes it worse!.
just tell her exactly what you told us, i think that you got the main ideas right:]
and i think thats so dumb, that people think that this has to do with people being "emo!."
im tired of hearing that!.
its just kind of like!.
shut the **** up, honestly!.
those ignorant people have no idea what self harm or "emo" even is!.
being "emo" and being a self harmer are two totally different things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Cutting is very, very hard for parents (and many other people) to understand!. Maybe you can sit down and tell her how you feel---openly and honestly! Prove to her that you've quit--show her your arms everyday, or every week! You'll have to build up that trust again!.!.!.and that takes time!
Be patient with her!. She's struggling to understand, and often times parents wonder what they did wrong!.
As far as you having to see a therapist, that may be a good idea! At least for awhile!. I know you say you've quit cutting, but sometimes those urges come back to us, full force! You may not have the urge now, but it could happen again!.
And, maybe the therapist will be helpful to your mom!. Your therapist may be able to answer her questions and help her understand, which could end up helping you as well!. :0)
Hang in there!.!.!.it'll get better!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Be patient with her!. She's struggling to understand, and often times parents wonder what they did wrong!.
As far as you having to see a therapist, that may be a good idea! At least for awhile!. I know you say you've quit cutting, but sometimes those urges come back to us, full force! You may not have the urge now, but it could happen again!.
And, maybe the therapist will be helpful to your mom!. Your therapist may be able to answer her questions and help her understand, which could end up helping you as well!. :0)
Hang in there!.!.!.it'll get better!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Y Would Ne1 Cut Them Selves!Www@Answer-Health@Com