Bereavement & Grief Emotional Support & Advice?!

You need to talk to someone babe!. You have been holding this inside for to long!. You need to get it out!.You have been trying to be strong for your mother and everyone else and you have put your pain aside!. you need to let it out!. You have the right to hurt as much as your mother or anyone else in your family!. Please don't keep it in!. You know I'm truly sorry for the loss of your father and that I'm truly sorry for your loss and that I'm here for you whenever you need me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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when you share your pain with your mother and others who loved your dad it will help you more than any you can know!. Remember your dad with others and your mom!. Talk about him and laugh and cry together!. This is what will make you stronger!.
When my dad died it was a year later that I broke down and cried!. It was very load and very hard and once I started to cry it seem as tho I couldn't quit!.
But with the love of my mom and my brother we all help each other get throe that time of grief!. Let your mom help you and you help her throe this time of need!. And I am so sorry for your loss!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Crying too much is not an issue here, because it is a very recent event!. The problem was that the grieving didn't start when it should have, because you wanted to be strong for your mother, so if anything it is worse now!. You and your mum share a loss, being strong for her is not realistic, because subconsciously she will think you don't care, even though she knows that is not true, because grief distorts judgement!.
Just before my father died, I saw a film, or maybe it was a tv programme, and someone said that a person who had died lives on forever in the heart of those that loved them!. I have kept that with me ever since, and spent a lot of the early times after he died crying, and laughing about the funny things he did!.
I know it is a cliche, but time is a great healer!. You must, however, allow time to do it's work, and grieve!. It will take along time for your mum, after 43 years, and you, after 30 odd years, but allow the process to happen, for both of you!.
My thoughts are with you!. xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com

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You don't have to be strong for your mother!. I'm sure that she knows that you're hurting as much as she!. Don't deny yourself the right to grieve!. Go and see a professional grief counselor or even a pastor, together or separately!. Hand this pain over to someone who can help you!. You can lean on those you love, but it can be like the blind leading the blind!. There's only so much they can do!.
Hugs and blessings,
luWww@Answer-Health@Com

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When it comes to grief, being strong can mean showing your mom it is ok to have feelings!.!.!. tears!. I lost a mother, son and husband before age 30 and have alot of experience with grief!. In all the grief support groups I went to over time what I remember most is that years later people said they wished they had cried more with thier surviving family members!. Many were all crying and grieving on thier own thinking they needed to be strong for each other!. Once they realized this and began to cry, share and even laugh about the memories with thier surviving loved ones they healed much more quickly!.

Hang in there sweetie, it does get better!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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There are many things you can do to help yourself cope during this time!. Ask for help and support from family, friends or a support group!. Try to express whatever you are feeling, be it anger, guilt or sadness!. Accept that some things, like death, are beyond your control!. Avoid making major decisions - your judgement may be affected and changes could increase your stress levels!. Give yourself the time and space to grieve!. By doing so, you are able to mourn properly and avoid problems in the future!. BLESS YOU PET Let it all out and accept all the help you can get!! Take careWww@Answer-Health@Com

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So sorry about your dad, really!.

http://sadly-missed!.com/resources/seven_!.!.!.

The only thing that just happened is the SHOCK JUST WORE OFF!. That is usually what happens when someone we love passes away!. You will go through the seven stages of grief, we all do and it takes time, so don't think anything is abnormal about how you are feeling, just let yourself feel what you feel!. Make sure you and mom keep the lines of communication open too!. You can grieve and still be supportive of her, but you have to grieve too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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you don't have to be strong for your mother,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,everyone mourns differently!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
if crying works!.do it!.!.!.if keeping real busy does it do it!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
it takes a long time!.My Dad died in 96 and I still miss him!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
hang in there and cry if you want!.the tears will slow down eventually!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.keeping busy worked for me!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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