Boyfriend has given me an ultimatum; depression holding me back. What should I d!
Question: Boyfriend has given me an ultimatum; depression holding me back!. What should I do!?
Hi Everyone!
I need your help/advice!
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 1!.5 years (I'm 23 years old)
Tonight he gave me an ultimatum "Get happier or he's leaving me"
I've been depressed for as long as I can remember!. Its extreamly hard for me to get happy/chipper about things!. I find I tend to just be in a sad "Feel sorry for me" state!. I cry all the time, I just seem to just be "blue" all the time!. I've been on meds (Prozac, Paxil, etc) and the side effects have been so overwelming that I couldn't take them anymore!.
I don't know what to do, I love my boyfriend so much, but I just cant seem to get out of this depression/sadness state!
I need some help! Any advice would mean the world to me!!
Thank you!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I need your help/advice!
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 1!.5 years (I'm 23 years old)
Tonight he gave me an ultimatum "Get happier or he's leaving me"
I've been depressed for as long as I can remember!. Its extreamly hard for me to get happy/chipper about things!. I find I tend to just be in a sad "Feel sorry for me" state!. I cry all the time, I just seem to just be "blue" all the time!. I've been on meds (Prozac, Paxil, etc) and the side effects have been so overwelming that I couldn't take them anymore!.
I don't know what to do, I love my boyfriend so much, but I just cant seem to get out of this depression/sadness state!
I need some help! Any advice would mean the world to me!!
Thank you!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Whenever you feel yourself slipping into your "depressed state of mind!.!.!.change your thinking immediately!.
*Go for a walk
*Think of something that made you laugh
*Start making plans for a fun evening out!.
*Exercise (it actually produces hormones that create the feeling of being happy and it's a great stress reliever)!.
Instead of indulging in thoughts that make you sad; in other words don't sit and think of all the times people have done you wrong or think of all the thing that aren't going your way!.
Do the opposite
Think of all the things that make you happy!.!.!. all the nice things people have done for you and all the blessing that you have in your life that others don't!.
Here's one to help you get started!.!.!. you have a boyfriend who cares about you and your happiness enough to say something to you!.
Fake it 'til you make it!. If you just start acting happy and start showing enthusiasm for things that happen around you eventually you will learn to appreciate it and you won't have to pretend anymore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
*Go for a walk
*Think of something that made you laugh
*Start making plans for a fun evening out!.
*Exercise (it actually produces hormones that create the feeling of being happy and it's a great stress reliever)!.
Instead of indulging in thoughts that make you sad; in other words don't sit and think of all the times people have done you wrong or think of all the thing that aren't going your way!.
Do the opposite
Think of all the things that make you happy!.!.!. all the nice things people have done for you and all the blessing that you have in your life that others don't!.
Here's one to help you get started!.!.!. you have a boyfriend who cares about you and your happiness enough to say something to you!.
Fake it 'til you make it!. If you just start acting happy and start showing enthusiasm for things that happen around you eventually you will learn to appreciate it and you won't have to pretend anymore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You should give him an ultimatum "Stop acting like an asshole or I'm leaving you!."Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you should see a psychologist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he doesn't put into consideration what you are going through, why be with him!? I can ask that since i have been there!. It seems like I am always in the "blue mood"!. When I am with some one who doesn't take the time to care, I ask myself, "will he take the time to care if you have a stroke or something!?"
He is asking you to change something that is very hard to do!. Its not like quilting smoking or drinking!. If he loved you, honestly loved you inside and out, he wouldn't have asked you to change!.
I hope this helps you!. But you and your situation is different then my!. I hope all goes well!. They always say there are many fish in the sea, but its easier then said!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He is asking you to change something that is very hard to do!. Its not like quilting smoking or drinking!. If he loved you, honestly loved you inside and out, he wouldn't have asked you to change!.
I hope this helps you!. But you and your situation is different then my!. I hope all goes well!. They always say there are many fish in the sea, but its easier then said!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This kind of ultimatum is impossible for you to comply with! I'm sure he knows that, too!. I think you would be wise to get some help before you even try to have a serious relationship with someone!. You have to be "ok" with yourself before you can be there for someone else!.!.!. that's just a fact of life!. Be good to yourself first! If he can't handle it, or wait it out for you, you should accept what he's decided!. Ultimatums never work! That's because they're one-sided!. But, take what he's saying for what it's worth! He's just saying you need to get well before you can be there for him the way he needs you to be!. He's got a good point!. But, getting there isn't easy (as you well know) and may take longer than he's willing to wait!. But, it's never to late to do it for you! Probably the best thing you can do is let him know how much you love him, but tell him the ultimatum is unrealistic and that you can only do what you can to try to get better, and hope that he will be supportive enough to help you get there!.If not, he'll only get in your way, and it would probably be best to let him go!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi Marisa,
First off, I know you love your bf but he doesn't deserve you!. That's like telling a cancer patient to get better, or someone who has a heart attack to just stop it!. After 1!.5 years he has NO idea what you're going through and that sucks!. He sucks!. You should just dump him - he doesn't deserve you!.
Second, you suffer from depression, which is as debilitating as any disease!. I have a friend who suffers from the same thing, she had to get professional help and it last almost 2 years but she got much better!. I don't know what he did but it was a combo of drugs and therapy and she got much better, and now she has a bf and they are really happy together!.
Seriously, there's nothing you can do on your own but you CAN get help and get better!. You need to treat depression like you would pneumonia or a root canal - it can be taken care of, but you NEED professional help!. And you need a supportive, loving bf, not some asshole who's only making things worse by stressing you out!. Dump him, get some help, and start a whole new life, a much better life!.
Best of luck!. MWWww@Answer-Health@Com
First off, I know you love your bf but he doesn't deserve you!. That's like telling a cancer patient to get better, or someone who has a heart attack to just stop it!. After 1!.5 years he has NO idea what you're going through and that sucks!. He sucks!. You should just dump him - he doesn't deserve you!.
Second, you suffer from depression, which is as debilitating as any disease!. I have a friend who suffers from the same thing, she had to get professional help and it last almost 2 years but she got much better!. I don't know what he did but it was a combo of drugs and therapy and she got much better, and now she has a bf and they are really happy together!.
Seriously, there's nothing you can do on your own but you CAN get help and get better!. You need to treat depression like you would pneumonia or a root canal - it can be taken care of, but you NEED professional help!. And you need a supportive, loving bf, not some asshole who's only making things worse by stressing you out!. Dump him, get some help, and start a whole new life, a much better life!.
Best of luck!. MWWww@Answer-Health@Com