I was sexually harassed and now my life is spiraling out of control. Can you ple!
Question: I was sexually harassed and now my life is spiraling out of control!. Can you please help me!?
In the winter, these two guys that I didn't know started saying hi to me from out of the blue!. I didn't think anything of it until I started hearing them yell, "Nice boobs!" or something along that line from across a crowded room!. I was so oblivious that I didn't even know they were yelling it at me!. Then in the middle of the spring, it got out of control: they would yell it at me every day!. They even went so low as to start calling me "tit girl"!. The day they called me that horrible name, I broke down and cried and told an administrator!. He gave the boys 3 days of suspension, and when they came back they said that they were sorry to me!. The administrator said that he did not tell them to do this; they did it on their own accord!.
It has been months and I am still suffering from this traumatic event!. I am not as social as I used to be and I am very moody!. I am also scared to go back to school because I do not want this to happen again!. Please, please help me!. What should I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
It has been months and I am still suffering from this traumatic event!. I am not as social as I used to be and I am very moody!. I am also scared to go back to school because I do not want this to happen again!. Please, please help me!. What should I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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When I was young and in school I was the tallest girl in class!. One teacher put me in the smallest desk for the class picture!. I still have it!. They would put me in the top middle of the back row for pictures and they call me moose for years!. I suffered depression, self drought and was unable to even think about grades or school!. School became hell!. Now that I'm older 52 looking back I realized that had I stood tall and excepted my size they would have left me alone!. It takes the fun out of it for them!. My suggestion, agree with them!. I have a friend who is over weight had big boobs and always compliments herself on both!. She's just agrees with what people say to her and then they just leave her alone!. On thing I have learned in my life is DON'T LET THEM KNOW YOU CARE! Be proud of what you have and who you are!. Keep up your grades!. They'll move on to someone else soon enough!. I know it's tough but just keep on going!. Stand tall, smile, and know that what goes around comes around!. If someone makes a comment let it go and roll off your back!. It's hard but once you start you'll be on top of the world!. You will control the situation by not reacting to idiots!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am sorry that this happened to you!. It must have been very trumatic!. The only advice i can give is to tell you that you are not alone!. This has happened to many other girls just like you!. The best thing you can do is talk about it!. Talk to your family, your friends, people you meet on here!. I am sure plenty of people can tell you that they are going through the same thing!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may have seen the WRONG counselor!. You were bullied and have some post traumatic stress disorder!. It takes a long time to get over that kind of vicious behavior!. You may need to take some medication to get you started on the right path- but not forever, just for now, to get you through the worst part!.
Can you change schools!? Have you checked that out!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Can you change schools!? Have you checked that out!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would avoid them they sound like sickos!.
Why do you even care what they think!? Get a new job!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why do you even care what they think!? Get a new job!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Take it from a girl with big boobs!.!.!.don't let them bring you down!. Life is full of pople that don't know any better then to put people down because that's all people have done to them!. Walk proud okay and once you feel comfy in your own skin again you will find that people just like you for you!. Hiding or wishing your boobs would go away will not help!. Besides wait till your in your twenties cause you'll be singing a diffent tone about them then!. Take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No offense but you sound like a huge drama queen, 'OMG GUYS BOO HOOEY I GOT CALLED TIT GIRL AT SCHOOL IM GONNA CRY NOW BOO HOOEY!' Shut up you drama queen, it isn't a big deal, if you don't like it tell the administrator, seriously it isn't that big of a deal, it's months and you're still suffering!? Wow I would hate to be your boyfriend, you'd probably be constantly pissed off at me for the smallest things!. You sound like you have huge psychological problems that you need to deal with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, you were called "tit girl", that is harsh!.
Wait, no, that isn't the least bit harsh!. Believe me, there are much much worse things that can happen to you in life than being called "tit girl" by a couple of teenagers!.
What you should do it go back to school, wear a tight shirt that shows a lot of cleavage, and jiggle those big boobies in front of those three and tell them that until they learn some manners, looking and cat-calling is as close to a nice rack as they will ever get!.
As far as this being a giant trauma, get over it and get over yourself!. I don't understand what makes so many people think they are too special and delicate to be mocked and teased!. Not everyone in the world is nice and pleasant, and even the people who are nice and pleasant are not that way all the time!. In short, get used to it and save your worry for something deserving of it!.
If you don't, if you allow yourself to continue playing the victim the world is going to crush you!. I know I sound like an unsympathetic ***, partially because I am, but I'm tellin' it like it is!. You need a slap in the face more than a shoulder to cry on!. I don't really care if you pull yourself out of the victim role and take life by the horns, or if you shrivel up and hide from the world because you can't take the heat, but you should care!.
Just remember, the choice is yours!. Be the victim or be above victimization!. So, what's it gonna be, tit girl!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wait, no, that isn't the least bit harsh!. Believe me, there are much much worse things that can happen to you in life than being called "tit girl" by a couple of teenagers!.
What you should do it go back to school, wear a tight shirt that shows a lot of cleavage, and jiggle those big boobies in front of those three and tell them that until they learn some manners, looking and cat-calling is as close to a nice rack as they will ever get!.
As far as this being a giant trauma, get over it and get over yourself!. I don't understand what makes so many people think they are too special and delicate to be mocked and teased!. Not everyone in the world is nice and pleasant, and even the people who are nice and pleasant are not that way all the time!. In short, get used to it and save your worry for something deserving of it!.
If you don't, if you allow yourself to continue playing the victim the world is going to crush you!. I know I sound like an unsympathetic ***, partially because I am, but I'm tellin' it like it is!. You need a slap in the face more than a shoulder to cry on!. I don't really care if you pull yourself out of the victim role and take life by the horns, or if you shrivel up and hide from the world because you can't take the heat, but you should care!.
Just remember, the choice is yours!. Be the victim or be above victimization!. So, what's it gonna be, tit girl!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
u obviously feel violated, humiliated and I'm very sorry to hear that happened to you!.!.!.i was sexually assaulted at my ex-job and i have post traumatic stress disorder!.!.!.i have isolated myself also and do not go many places in fear of seeing this man or what he will do to me if he does see me since i told my boss what he did to me!.!.!.it doesn't help that this person is my bosses brother in law and they made me out to be a slut but i still feel so violated and in fear of my life and scared all the time of anything that might happen!.!.!.!.i would really give yr counselor some more time to help you get through the situation at school because you do need to go back to school and take back control of your life just like i do!.!.!.i have been in counseling for this specific event for almost 2 years now!.!.!.it does take time sweety!.!.!.good luck and again I'm sorry that these guys did this to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
You should stop and think that your letting these pigs rob you from your life and you just need to get mad and say your not going to let them do that to you!. This is your life, sometimes people say or do things that can and will hurt you!. That's life unfortunately!. These boys are just that immature little boys and on top of that there pigs!. Your letting 3 little pigs ruin your life!. Now tell yourself over and over until you believe it that your not going to let them do this to you!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.cause you deserve much better than this from yourself!. OK, OK!Www@Answer-Health@Com