Is my mother being unusually morbid, or is this normal for a terminally ill pers!
Question: Is my mother being unusually morbid, or is this normal for a terminally ill person!?
My mom is dying of lung disease!. She seems to have come to terms with the fact that she's dying!. But now she is deciding who my dad should marry after she dies!. She has decided that the best match for him is her sister!. Of course, her sister is currently married, so Mom says when she and my uncle die, then my dad and my aunt should get married!.
Is this normal for someone who's terminally ill to go through!? She was completely serious!. My sister and I tried to blow it off by joking around about "Aunt Mom," but we're both really worried about my mom!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is this normal for someone who's terminally ill to go through!? She was completely serious!. My sister and I tried to blow it off by joking around about "Aunt Mom," but we're both really worried about my mom!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
In part it is your mom coming to terms with the reality of her own mortality!.!. and the thing that is most terrifying about death is leaving those we love behind, in her mind your mom is trying to think of ways that your dad will be alright without her!. Maybe what she really needs is for you and your sister to reassure her that your dad will be fine in the event that she dies and that you and your sister will make sure that he is okay!.
Build up your relationship with your dad let mom see that you and your siaster love him very much and that you two will be totally there for him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Build up your relationship with your dad let mom see that you and your siaster love him very much and that you two will be totally there for him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's pretty normal for someone who's dying to think about who their spouse is going to marry!. Your mom is probably just worried about your dad being alone after her death!. I realize that this is a pretty weird way of dealing with it, but you just need to have patience and realize that she's just really concerned for your dad's welfare!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes this is normal!. My step dad did the same thing for my mom!.!.!.!.of course she ignored it!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
its a grief process its her way of appearing to be in control and strong , if she can control those around her she feels like she is fulfilling her duties as dutiful wife as she prepares for her ending of this life to a new life , my bro was dying of brain cancer 33 yrs and he wanted his wife and 4 kids to have a home so he got her set up with a trailer and the ambulance took him to his new home but never got to live in it, he died knowing she was safe in her own home !.your mom wants your dad to be happy and go on with someone she trusts now because she has lung cancer her oxygen exchange is messed up and sometimes the carbon dioxide builds up and they get more morbid
your dad should be comforting her saying honey your the only one for me, and if i decide to remarry i want her to cook like you , and take good care of me like you are now, she may need to feel reassureed that her hubby will stay true until she dies!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
your dad should be comforting her saying honey your the only one for me, and if i decide to remarry i want her to cook like you , and take good care of me like you are now, she may need to feel reassureed that her hubby will stay true until she dies!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's not really a normal behavior for someone that is dying, in my opinion!. But I wouldn't let her get too into these thoughts!. When a sick person has a negative mindset, it can affect their health and life longevity!. I'd stop her and explain how her comments make you feel and that you'd rather focus on her and your relationship with each other!? My dad had cancer twice and he was becoming really dark with his comments!. I had to be adamant and tough on him but he understood that his comments were bothering and hurting me to think about!. He is okay now, thank goodness, but being really honest with him helped my whole family feel better!. Www@Answer-Health@Com