I care A LOT about what people think of me. and i need to stop.?!
Question: I care A LOT about what people think of me. and i need to stop.?
i don't know how to stop. before high school it was all smooth sailing. then it got rough
i went to weed. and now im suspended for 10 days for getting caught for that.
how do i stop caring about other people and just.. live?
it may seem like a stupid question, but i just need SOME answer. or something to work towards.
Answers:
Hehe...
YOu're looking too hard into this. WHen we say we care too much about what "others" think about us, what we're really saying is - we're judging ourselves through the eyes of someone else.
If you're walking down the street and see someone and paranoia takes over and you think they look at you and think you're this and that, the reaction you oughtta develop is this: "Ok, who do you think you are? If you have a problem with me - come up here and says it to my face so I can defend myself! If you can't, then obviously your accusation of me holds no water."
So, the question is - what about yourself do YOU wanna change? 9/10 times (well, random guess) you may not know what the person is REALLY thinking who looks like he/she judges you. That's why I'm not bothered of being judged. If it's something I need to change, I wanna know and look into changing it. If it's not being told to my face, it doesn't count worthy of worrying about.
If you're feeling guilt, then try to approach the people to whom you feel it. Whatever else it is, try to take a small step into the right direction. Through what you see through someone else's eyes you're seeing your own self-judgment.
Good luck!