Can you help me find a way to escape my negativity?!

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No, nor should you try to.

It's not your fault that your observations of life and reality aren't good ones.

Cur.mud.geon\,k_r-‘ m_j-_nn - Anyone who hates hypocrisy and pretense and has the temerity to say so.

Curmudgeons’ reputation for malevolence is undeserved. They’re neither warped nor evil at heart. They don’t hate mankind, just mankind’s excesses. They’re just as sensitive and soft hearted as the next guy, but they hide their vulnerability beneath a crust of misanthropy. They ease the pain by turning hurt into humor. They snarl at pretense and bite at hypocrisy out of a healthy sense of outrage. They attack maudlinism because it devalues genuine sentiment.

Nature, having failed to equip them with a serviceable denial mechanism, has endowed them with astute perception. Offense is their only defense. Their weapons are irony, satire, sarcasm, ridicule. Their targets are pretense, pomposity, conformity, incompetence.

Curmudgeons are mockers and debunkers whose bitterness is a symptom rather than a disease.

They can’t compromise their standards and can’t manage the suspension of disbelief necessary for feigned cheerfulness. Their awareness is a curse; they’re constantly ticked off because they’re constantly aware of so much to be ticked off about, and they wish things were better.

Curmudgeons have gotten a bad rap in the same way that the messenger is blamed for the message.

Cynic, n. A blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are, not as they ought to be. - Ambrose Bierce

A cynic is more like a curmudgeon of a misanthrope; not something that one instinctually is, not something that one wants to be, but something that circumstances force one into. - John Simon

Cynicism is an unpleasant way of saying the truth. - Lillian Hellman

The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it. - George Bernard Shaw

I don’t like the word curmudgeon. It implies that there’s something wrong with social and cultural criticism, which is the obligation of every educated person. - Paul Fussell

Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you mad. - Aldous Huxley

Look for the ridiculous in everything and you find it. - Jules Renard

Mencken’s Law: Whenever A annoys or injures B on the pretense of saving or improving X, A is a scoundrel. - H.L. Mencken

Never underestimate the power of very stupid people in large groups. - John Kenneth Galbraith

It is easier to denature plutonium than to denature the evil spirit of man. - Albert Einstein

Principals have no real force except when one is well fed. - Mark Twain

Progress is the mother of problems. - G.K. Chesterton

Terrible things that are done with the excuse that progress requires them are not really progress at all, but just terrible things. - Russell Baker

The public will believe anything, so long as it is not founded on truth. - Edith Sitwell

It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid. - George Bernard Shaw

A little sincerity is a dangerous thing, and a great deal of it is absolutely fatal. - Oscar Wilde

Most people would die sooner than think; in fact they do so. - Bertrand Russell

The average dog is a nicer person than the average person. - Andrew A. Rooney

Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions. - Oscar Wilde

An optimist is a man who has never had much experience. - Don Marquis

The optimist thinks that this is the best of all possible worlds, and the pessimist knows it. - J. Robert Oppenheimer

I find nothing more depressing than optimism. - Paul Fussell

A pessimist is a person who has had to listen to too many optimists. - Don Marquis


You see things for what they are. Those people that are always positive, that live in this same world and society we do, are the ones that need to seek help for their mental deficiencies.

Yes, a simple effective way is right at your fingertips. Go to your local health food store or even online and inquire about "Bach Flower Remedies" They are harmless and very effective. There are different kinds of negativity-one type is critical thoughts, about yourself and others. Resentment, even hate can be greatly helped by these remedies, as well as fears and pessimism. For example, White Chestnut is will alleviate nagging thoughts that go round and round when you are trying to sleep. Two drops in water, a few times a day and you should notice a change within a week, maybe even sooner. A great thing about this method is that after a while the change becomes permanent and you dont even have to take the drops anymore.

The Twelve Healers Dr Edward Bach
Forty years of experience

First off, see a therapist. Things like depression and OCD can cause negativity and there are treatments for these conditions. But, there are ways to control negativity yourself up to a point. Every time you think something negative- "That won't work" "I'm stupid" "I'm so fat"- immediately stop yourself and think something positive. It seems stupid and forced, but over time, the positive thoughts because second nature and it really will help.

Think of a possitive in any situation
Imagine how it could get better, not worse