I am depressed, please help?!

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{ANSWER EDITED} Well all women go through gaining weight after giving birth. Like you they all gain a bit wieght so no big deal. i think that is the main reason ur depressed from yourself and u think that u dun look good now. Well u could reduce your weight now. So u have to make an proper excersice and diet schedule. And also follow the advice of the person above regarding your depression....i see some real good advice...but i recommend that you dun start doing job right now untill u recover from depression! than ull be more stressed out....you could start a job after recovering....now you said that you feel like commiting suicide!?! sounds like your serioulsy depressed. regarding the suicide part i would like to tell u something which is real serious.....you feel like ending your life over this little matter but I would like to ask u that what is the purpose of this life? Why are we here in this world? Why are we born and live this life in different situations where good and bad things happen and than die? Why? Why Is that? Have u ever thought about this once? Every human goes through this. First of all we should know that God exists cuz there is alot of evidence for his existance from science and so if God exists than why has he put us in this world? For what? Cuz u know most people dun care about this and just live their lives the way they want. maybe you will do the same and just ignore what i am talking about. everybody has made there own purposes of their lives. but since we all are the same humans put in this world by God than we should have the same purpose of this life...shoudnt we? Well there is a religion out there which has the answer to all these questions and no its not christianity cuz there are alot of errors,mistakes and contradictions in the Bible. No offence if ur Christian but it is true. So the true word of God cant have this. If we want to know the true religion we should consider it logically rather than accepting it blindly just cuz u was born in it. So this religion which has the answer to all the big questions is the worlds fastest growing religion and more than 45000 people convert to it each year from the world. Even i have accepted it and from this i have found peace and comfort cuz i know the purpose of life. So i am happy and never get depressed cuz if it and all the millions of people who have converted to it feel the same way. Cuz it is the true path from God and this is so cuz there is alot of evidence that proves so. I would not tell u the name of that religion cuz than u want believe me. So in order to find it out you have to do a bit research. So study the major religions of the world and compare them and youll see for yourself and figure out that which religion is logical,rational, there is no superstitous nonsense in it and it is compatible with modern science, its scripture is flawless with no condradictions,mistakes,error since its the word of God and there is alot evidence which proves so. Take my advice, its worth it! Youll find out what you were missing. Cuz the issue i just raised is really important! And you cant just ignore it. What is the true religion anyway? Cuz there so many religions in the world and all of there followers say there one is true. But the true religion is the one which can be proved true rationally. So be sincere seeking guidance and take some time out and do the research and see for yourself the truth. But again if u just ignore this and think oh where did this religious guy popped from than fine upto......but do think about it cuz like i said before the issue i raised is real serious and shouldnt be ignored....one should do something about it. If your really sincere seeking guidance and ask God for guiding you and make the effort, take the time out and do the research...you will be guided cuz all those people which converted to that religion have did this and it worked out.

just let it flow and think about wheelchairs

This is completely normal, it sounds like you have a certain motherhood depression, called post-natal depression. you clearly have signs of this depression. When you get a chance, ask your mum and dad to mind the babies for a weekend, and you get plenty of sleep. Visit your doctor and he will arrange for you to see a counsellor, approx twice a week. He also might precribe you anti-depressants. However it might help if you try to fight the depression on your own, get your kiddies in nusery, you'll be able to get the funding with child benefit and child tax credit. Make sure you go for a walk early in the morning, get into a routine, do your cleaning in the morning, treat yourself to a book in the afternoos, think positive. Look at yourself in the mirror and say - I can do this, I am a strong woman and I love my children, my parents love me, my husband loves me, I'm going to be fine. Get your self signed on with the job centre, and start looking for work, tell them your situation and they will be able to help yout. Talk to your husband, go see some friends, give yourself a break you have had two kids, don't worry things will settle down and you'll be a confident young woman with a great family that love you.

My mum went through the same thing, I have learnt a lot from her. I also did psychology A Level in college.