If a man is sexuallysatisfied, why watch porn DAILY, and then lie about it when !
Question: I have been in relationship for 4 years we hqave three kids- we're both in early twenties, He is a good looking guy, I still keep myself up too! when he get off of work he goes straight to the internet and watches porn. Has told me that he could have sex with me everynite, but I am tired, what is the deal, We have kids and to be honest we probably have more sex than the average married couple with no kids, I have sat down and talked to him and this is starting to bring my sex drive down, as I start to feel insecure when I have no reason to be, anyone else going through this, I still love him and want to be with him, I do not want to have to go through an altimatum with him, but I feel that if he respect me he would atleast be honest about it.
Answers: I have been in relationship for 4 years we hqave three kids- we're both in early twenties, He is a good looking guy, I still keep myself up too! when he get off of work he goes straight to the internet and watches porn. Has told me that he could have sex with me everynite, but I am tired, what is the deal, We have kids and to be honest we probably have more sex than the average married couple with no kids, I have sat down and talked to him and this is starting to bring my sex drive down, as I start to feel insecure when I have no reason to be, anyone else going through this, I still love him and want to be with him, I do not want to have to go through an altimatum with him, but I feel that if he respect me he would atleast be honest about it.
Well I must say I am dealing with the same thing. My husband was spending hours on the internet looking at porn and spending our money on it as well. I thought at first no big deal. Then he kept looking at more and more. When that is no longer exciting they start looking at other types that are not OK. This could be a problem. Not saying in your case it is. I would start doing a little research on Porn Addiction. See what you think, and if you need an outside point of view find someone in your area that deals with addition and talk to them. I will agree that porn can be healthy but it also can be very very unhealthy. If it is affecting the way you feel about yourself then he is doing it enough for you to feel it is a problem. I wish you and your family the best. I hope that you will not have the same struggle I have dealing with for 7 LONG years.
You really have no reason to feel insecure, it is perfectly normal for men to look at porn. It goes along with fantasy, and to be honest, you probably would not want to perform all the things the women in the movies he watches do. Just accept that he does and show him there is something to look forward to in reality.
I'm sure he's embarrased about it, especially since you are obviously against pornography.
Try to be understanding when you speak with him, and don't ask questions that he's forced to lie to you about. Instead, tell him that you know he watches porn and ask him why. Then, once you meet with him on an equal sitting, try to work out the issue through conversation.
because hes scared that youll dissaprove, or leave him, or something, u might sujest watching porn together, and see what he does.....me and my boyfriend do that, but, i hope everything goes alright, oh, and he probably watched it, because he wants to be more adventurous, so maybe spring something new on him in bed tonight.......that could work
<3maddie
the dudes probably embaressed u found him looking at porn
but alll dudes look at porn and if they don't something is worng with them
i'm a bit confused, what is he lying about? lying about watching porn daily or lying about being sexually satisfied? and how do you know if he's lying?
usually men in early 20's is still sexually (very) active, but depends though, whether he has a high level of testosterone(it is the factor that makes men have libido). I think it's better for him to watch porn rather than having an affair(right?).
I'd say that you should try to calm down a bit, and try to trust your husband more,because sometimes anxiety can ruin a relationship .If it's still bothering you too much, then, i still think that you should talk to him. If he asks you why, then answer it, whether you feel uncomfortable, or whether you feel jealous, but you still should consider your husband's personality(you know him better than me, right?). good luck
Well, his masturbation to porn is part of his sexual satisfaction, not just sex. Guys need to tickle their fantasies from time to time, and there are some things that he may be afraid you might not want to try that is in those porns. You have nothing to be ashamed of, most guys look at porns, and it's normal for us to hide it. If he didn't hide it, that would be more a reason to be insecure, because that would indicate that he doesn't care that you know he is getting off to other women etc. If you want, ask to join him, as that might make him more aroused, and also, the two of you might get some new ideas for the bedroom. Overall, don't worry on it too much, and have you ever considered that he might be afraid to try to engage in sex after work because he's afraid you or himself might not be in the mood and or agitated? If you give him a more relaxing atmosphere, he might be able to cool down a bit after work and be more inclined to have sex.
I do this.
My wife and I have sex about 4-5 times a week and thats fine for both of us (at least thats what she says) and I never deny sex when she offers or initiates it.
However, I enjoy my "alone time" and I like to masturbate without all the work involved or cuddling afterwards. Sometimes I just want to get off just to "get off", it doenst mean I want to cheat on my wife or dont want to have sex with her.