What could be wrong with my boyfriend?!
Question: My ex b/f came back to me asking me for another chance and saying that he realised he loves me trully and deeply and wants to marry me.We have been in a relationship for a few years and was engaged.Eventually we broked up the engagement .A few months later he involved in a relationship with another girl for a 3 months.He made a clean break up with her because he wanted to be with me.And he asked me to break up with my b/f as well We started seeing each other and making plans for the future.Second time when we have seen each other the whole day he was fine and keep saying every five minutes how much he loves me.I had to go back home for 2 hours then we met for dnner and he was differnt.Cold and confused.We started talking and he changed again and said he is 100% sure he wants to be with me and marry me.Some hours later he suddenly changed again and said he is confused.What do u think its wrong with him.Is that some psychiatrical disorder.
Answers: My ex b/f came back to me asking me for another chance and saying that he realised he loves me trully and deeply and wants to marry me.We have been in a relationship for a few years and was engaged.Eventually we broked up the engagement .A few months later he involved in a relationship with another girl for a 3 months.He made a clean break up with her because he wanted to be with me.And he asked me to break up with my b/f as well We started seeing each other and making plans for the future.Second time when we have seen each other the whole day he was fine and keep saying every five minutes how much he loves me.I had to go back home for 2 hours then we met for dnner and he was differnt.Cold and confused.We started talking and he changed again and said he is 100% sure he wants to be with me and marry me.Some hours later he suddenly changed again and said he is confused.What do u think its wrong with him.Is that some psychiatrical disorder.
I was seeing this girl in high school just for something to do. I cared about her but didn't love her. Fact is I didn't even know what it meant to love someone. I dated her to hide my own sexuality. I hoped maybe I would change. I used her to help that change happen. She, however loved me very much. When people started talking about me being queer I quickly asked her to marry me. She did and we spent the next 20 some years being miserable. This marriage happened after I broke up with her several times and then begged her to take me back swearing I loved her. I am now married a second time but this time we started out being totally honest with each other. I still fight my gay side on a daily basis. You can tell that if you read very much of my answers. I don't cheat on my wife even though I would like to and very probably would if I could find a safe and trustworthy guy. Don't think there is one of those.. My wife knows the possibility exists. She chooses to trust me. I believe that your boy friend is like me in regards to his sexuality. He needs to make a choice. Either be gay or str8. If he chooses gay he will never be completely happy. If he chooses str8 he will never be completely happy. He needs a good therapist that can help him come to terms with himself and if you do marry him you need to accept the possibility or probability that he will be with other men no matter how committed he is to being faithful. In his mind and heart he can never be completely faithful. He will always be looking at or for another man. Life can be pretty cruel at times and when you are stuck in the middle as your boyfriend and I are it is quite often more cruel than not. I have a good life but it is a constant uphill battle to maintain it. I wish you well. Your boy friend will every now and then battle also with thoughts of suicide. I have come awfully close to it at various times in my life. Your boy friend can write me if he needs a friend.
This really seems strange. Erm I think you really should slow this whole thing down a bit and look at it as a bigger picture
Estella, break it off with him. Dating is a preview of what is to come once your married. IF he broke up with you in order to date somone else and manipulated you to break it off with your boyfirend jsut to get back with him now your unsure about him it is time to let him go and let him mess up somone elses life. remember you marry the fool for life suppositly spend all the money on a big wedding then he deciedes to find somone else and leaves you.
Get out
curtdude
well, hes definatly condused for one thing. but i dont think its a psychiatrical disorder.
im kinda in that situation. if you have a boyfriends right now and you havent made a clean breakup from it, dont loose him. iknow its probably hard seeing that you've been with your ex for so long, and were almost married, but hes obviously not sure of what he wants, and half of the 'confusion' might just be him wanting you more becuase he knows he can't just get you.
i'd give it some time, maybe let him come to you and sit and talk about things. just dont make a decision too quick
good luck with everything
You should probably move on, find a more stable guy.
He (your b/f) is still torn between wanting his freedom and being committed to you.
Magic words "You had a boyfriend"
Why?
Becuase he was jealous and didnt want anyone with his girl but when you guys got back he realized why you split.
Truth is that he will always throw that boyfriend back in your face and make you feel guilty. Nothing will ever be the same. Sorry thats human nature. There is nothing wrong with him mentally thats just the way it is. Your where his property, someone else had you and he wanted it back no matter what reason you broke up.
Best to move on. If he wanted to marry you he would have no doubt about it. Move on.............
Dump him. He's playing mind games. You don't have time to fix him, you can't fix people, they have to fix themselves.
Dump that loser. You have a *****---you'll find a much better guy!