I'm a little worried about my friend?!
Question: I'm a little worried about my friend!?
Most of you most prob read my previous question about my friend who doesn't jack off at 17!.
Anyway now that i think about it he is a bit immature when it comes to anything related to sex and very shy and uncomfortable about it!. Like when hes around all the guys he talks like one of the boys kind of thing about girls and stuff!.!.!.but when its just him and me he is actually rlly shy about girls (like we're best friends for a few years now so we know each other rlly well)!.!.!.and a bit immature cause i know the whole talking about girls with the guys is an act!.!.!.so i sort of know the true him so to speak!. Should i encourage him to talk about girls and stuff a bit more, and bring up that sort of thing in conversation allot more cause hes rlly immature about that stuff and just a bit worried for him!.!.!.!.
Like weird thing in most other ways he is rlly emotionally mature like i came out to him and he took that rlly well so hes not immature in those kinds of ways!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anyway now that i think about it he is a bit immature when it comes to anything related to sex and very shy and uncomfortable about it!. Like when hes around all the guys he talks like one of the boys kind of thing about girls and stuff!.!.!.but when its just him and me he is actually rlly shy about girls (like we're best friends for a few years now so we know each other rlly well)!.!.!.and a bit immature cause i know the whole talking about girls with the guys is an act!.!.!.so i sort of know the true him so to speak!. Should i encourage him to talk about girls and stuff a bit more, and bring up that sort of thing in conversation allot more cause hes rlly immature about that stuff and just a bit worried for him!.!.!.!.
Like weird thing in most other ways he is rlly emotionally mature like i came out to him and he took that rlly well so hes not immature in those kinds of ways!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I think you might have stumbled on your own answer!. You said you came out to him!. He has no trouble "being one of the guys"!.
He might be shy talking about girls in front of you because he's afraid of offending you as a gay man!. I know it sounds odd, but it just may be!. He's your friend, and from the sound of it, one who values your friendship enough not to risk offending you!.
There is also another possibility!. He is struggling with his own sexual identity!. His shyness in talking about girls when you are alone could be his way of trying to start a conversation!. If this is the case, neither encourage or discourage the "girl" talk!. If he is struggling with his identity, he might feel like you are "forcing" him to be straight!. Backing off a little with doing the usual guy talk about girls will allow you to see where things stand!.
Either way, you have an incredible friend!. It's not always easy to make a friendship that only becomes tighter after coming out!. You are a very lucky man indeed!. You would have to be one hell of a guy for that to be!. So as a friend, you owe it to him to find out!. If he's struggling, answer any question he has to the best of your ability or go look it up at the library!. If he is just worried about offending you, you can work out a balance of what the both of you are comfortable discussing during your "guy talk" times alone!.
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He might be shy talking about girls in front of you because he's afraid of offending you as a gay man!. I know it sounds odd, but it just may be!. He's your friend, and from the sound of it, one who values your friendship enough not to risk offending you!.
There is also another possibility!. He is struggling with his own sexual identity!. His shyness in talking about girls when you are alone could be his way of trying to start a conversation!. If this is the case, neither encourage or discourage the "girl" talk!. If he is struggling with his identity, he might feel like you are "forcing" him to be straight!. Backing off a little with doing the usual guy talk about girls will allow you to see where things stand!.
Either way, you have an incredible friend!. It's not always easy to make a friendship that only becomes tighter after coming out!. You are a very lucky man indeed!. You would have to be one hell of a guy for that to be!. So as a friend, you owe it to him to find out!. If he's struggling, answer any question he has to the best of your ability or go look it up at the library!. If he is just worried about offending you, you can work out a balance of what the both of you are comfortable discussing during your "guy talk" times alone!.
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i think u should not interfere with that!.!.let him be what he wants to be, let him choose the people he would talk to regarding certain topics!.!.!.well, if u'r his best friend that is understndable!.!.!.i myself don't talk to my best friend regarding those topic, as i'm afraid he might get upset or something!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, if you can help your friend to realize how wonderful girls can be - in so many ways - you'll be doing him a great favour!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just chat to your friend normally as you would to anyone else!.
Don't try to force him to talk about girls until he is ready!.
He will mature soon so don't pressurise him!.
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Don't try to force him to talk about girls until he is ready!.
He will mature soon so don't pressurise him!.
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You only can make a matured man out of him but consulting a doctor before that is not a bad idea!.That will motivate you go more actively with your focus!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
do you want him to be as horny as you!? do you feel lonely cause he is not!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
What you have to consider is everyone is different!. Maybe your friend doesn't feel the need to boast to everybody about his thoughts or what he does or doesn't do in private!. Also he may not want to feed in to the BS that alot of teens throw out!. It is possible that he is not the one that is immature!. You have to admit, what guys talk about is NOT always the truth!.
If you are his friend then let him be who he is!. I'm certain if he has a problem then he will confide in you!. As long as there is not a life shattering problem lurking in his mind then there is nothing wrong with him keeping his thoughts to himself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you are his friend then let him be who he is!. I'm certain if he has a problem then he will confide in you!. As long as there is not a life shattering problem lurking in his mind then there is nothing wrong with him keeping his thoughts to himself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can understand your concerns, but in all honesty what he thinks about sex is not your business unless he choses to open up and share with you what he thinks!. Just keep in mind not everyone wants to share their fantasy/s with anyone!. Perhaps he is reserved in that area and old fashioned!. I know I am!. I dont share my every thoughts and i am married!. I think he will talk about this issue of sex and girls with you when he is ready and feels comfortable!. Perhaps he is gay!?!? I think your a great friend to be concerned, you both are so young!. You have your whole lives ahead of you, dont rush your friend into anything he's not ready to talk about, it will only make him feel introverted!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When 'your with the guys', it sounds like he is trying to fit in and not stand out by admitting this awkwardness, I wouldn't say this is immature, it's a sad, but natural, reflex for us young people to try and fit in!.
Primal instinct and all, don't want to get thrown out of the pack and left to fend for ourselves or something!.
Anyway, if he's open enough with you, to not have to put on the tough act, then your probably one of the best people to talk to him about 'girls and stuff', maybe he's not that interested in sex when it comes down to it, maybe it's simply a lack of experience that makes it difficult for him to talk to you!.
Ask him, and find out!. Then maybe, if he wants it, you can help him!.
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Primal instinct and all, don't want to get thrown out of the pack and left to fend for ourselves or something!.
Anyway, if he's open enough with you, to not have to put on the tough act, then your probably one of the best people to talk to him about 'girls and stuff', maybe he's not that interested in sex when it comes down to it, maybe it's simply a lack of experience that makes it difficult for him to talk to you!.
Ask him, and find out!. Then maybe, if he wants it, you can help him!.
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