My mother has Parkinson's disease?!
Question: She was diagnosed at 2-3 years ago. We're all learning to cope. She had DPS surgury, and that worked a little. I'm trying to cope with this. But it's really hard. I don't get in personal relationships any more because I'm afraid to tell them and have them date me out of sympathy. I find myself crying at night randomly, and just feeling really sad. Most of the time though I put on a happy face but whenever I watch a movie where someone has a disease I just break down. Is anyone in this situation? How do you cope?
Answers: She was diagnosed at 2-3 years ago. We're all learning to cope. She had DPS surgury, and that worked a little. I'm trying to cope with this. But it's really hard. I don't get in personal relationships any more because I'm afraid to tell them and have them date me out of sympathy. I find myself crying at night randomly, and just feeling really sad. Most of the time though I put on a happy face but whenever I watch a movie where someone has a disease I just break down. Is anyone in this situation? How do you cope?
I'm so sorry to hear that. I'll say a prayer for you.
The only advice I can give is to make sure you deal with everything you feel; get it out of you so that it doesn't take over your everyday life. Writing in a journal has always helped me tremendously (you can get a free one at diaryland.com and make it private if you want.)
You may also find it helps to get the support of those in a similar situation- check out online groups, there are tons of resources out there for families of people with chronic illnesses. It can help just to talk about it and know other people are going through similar things and that you are not alone.
As for the dating thing, I really don't think you have to worry about people dating you out of sympathy. You are your own perosn, not just your mother's disease. It is only one part of your life; there is much more to who you are, and other people will see that, I promise. It is unhealthy to withdraw from social activity and not have any outside relationships, in fact they can be very helpful and supportive.
Understand that it IS a difficult situation for anyone to be in, and inevitably there will be sadness involved. But take solace in the knowledge that you are doing all you can for your mother, and no matter how much you wish it was different, unfortunately there's nothing you can do change the situation beyond what you're already doing...so try not to let worry/sadness consume your life when it just won't do you any good.
Yes, I went thru something like that with my mother also. Her disease lasted for over 20 years of her live.
After about 3 years after diagnosis, I realized one day that I had my own life to live and I was going to live it for ME and not HER.
Come to the realization that life is indeed short. Dont waste it on pondering and sulking over things you cannot fix. When you accomplish that feeling of thought it is called maturity and then and only then will you be freed of this tied down feeling.
I'm sorry to hear that, yeah! it's really hard to digest the fact that one of our family has that neuro degenerative movement disorders( my grandfather has Parkinson's ) , but fortunately Parkinson's doesn't run in families like syndenham's chorea which's worse than Parkinson's, i think u r feeling a bit depressed, feelin low and depressed soothes our mind in these situations but offers no help, be strong and make things safe and enjoyable to ur dear mom
I don't know much about the disease, but just imagine how your mother might feel. It's hard on every one. May be you should get involved with some one. No one said that you have to talk about it right a way. Let it be some thing you share with some one after you get to know them. Then you'll know if it's the right kind of sympathy. Crying isn't such a bad thing either. Breaking down could be helping you out in more then just one way. Every one copes with things differently and not coping with it all will only make it worse for you and your mother. I pray that things get better for your mother and you. Just try to stay positive about every thing. Best of luck!!
You have to be positive. Look for the good in all things.
If you look, you can usually find it.
Everything happens for a reason.