Please please help me ...need advice.?!
Question: I come to you all for advice because I have no one at all to turn too. Today my father who Im very very close to was rushed to the hospital, while there he was told he had blood clots, and a large mass by his thyroid (sp?). His neck been hurting him for some time and months before the dr at the va told him it was a infection. Today he got told it was he had this going on..the dr's where wanting to take him by abulance to Houston to for more test due to the mass, and take care of the blood clots...he refused to go saying he will go just in a few days. Im praying its not Cancer but when I look at his history, smoker 2 packs a day, cancers in his family, these are all not good signs to me, and he has lost soooo much weight in past few yrs, idk what to do, im worried sick about him, he said he will do to Houston but they he has to wait till they (houston) set up the appt, I think thats a lie becuase my father hates going to the dr's so i think he is just telling me that....continue
Answers: I come to you all for advice because I have no one at all to turn too. Today my father who Im very very close to was rushed to the hospital, while there he was told he had blood clots, and a large mass by his thyroid (sp?). His neck been hurting him for some time and months before the dr at the va told him it was a infection. Today he got told it was he had this going on..the dr's where wanting to take him by abulance to Houston to for more test due to the mass, and take care of the blood clots...he refused to go saying he will go just in a few days. Im praying its not Cancer but when I look at his history, smoker 2 packs a day, cancers in his family, these are all not good signs to me, and he has lost soooo much weight in past few yrs, idk what to do, im worried sick about him, he said he will do to Houston but they he has to wait till they (houston) set up the appt, I think thats a lie becuase my father hates going to the dr's so i think he is just telling me that....continue
As painful for you to think of the worse. People simply deal with bad news in different manors. Your dad is probably experiencing denial at this point. He probably needs a couple of days to absorb and accept the possibility of a potentially deadly prognosis.
People deal with grief in so many different ways. You can show him your love by supporting him. ( although it may be hard) No one ever knows what their decision will be regarding a Cancer Diagnosis or any other potentially poor diagnosis.
As a health care professional, I feel that your dad should be seen ASAP. All necessary tests should be ran. All treatment suggestions should be entertained.
I will be thinking of you and your family during this uncertain time. Keep faith!
You flat out tell him hes going to die if not treated.This really doesn't sound good here.
Call the hospital and help set up the appointment instead of assuming he is lying about it. Help him out, he is understandably scared to find out what the problem is and is delaying the news, which is a natural reaction. Your worrying won't help the situation, so try to be calm so you don't worry him even more, be adult about it and talk him into going to the doctor, tell him time is of the essence, that if it is cancer every hour counts and the sooner he starts treatment, the more chance of a cure and long term survival rate. Be realistic with him.
It does sound serious, and if he refuses to go or refuses treatment, even if it is out of fear, there isnt much you can do beyond accept that it is his choice.
The next few months will be hard for everyone. You may want to look into psychological counseling for yourself and your dad. At the very least a support group, few people can go through this and make it through mentally healthy without outside help.
This certainly sounds serious, but I'm writing here to be the one ray of hope. There are 2 types of cancer which are very slow to progress: prostate and thyroid. People may have them when they die, but they'll probably die from something else, not these cancers. There's still hope.
I can't tell you that it is cancer but your father and family are in my prayers.Best of luck.