My friend has cancer, what do i say?!
Question: My friend has cancer, what do i say!?
Me and this girl!.!.!.!.!. we are really close!. Best friends!. After 7th period she comes up to me and says "I need to talk to you!." So of course as we're walking I asked her what was up!. She responds "I have cancer!." Then she shows me the mark on his arm from an IV for Chemotherapy!. I just respond with "No you don't!. No, no, no!." And she says he goes every night for chemo treatment!. Without it, she says he has 5-10 years!. On top of this, her dad died less then a year ago, her mom has breast cancer!. I am really scared!. She thinks I don't believe her but I do now!. She's always happy though no matter what, but I know she wants to talk about it!. What can I say to her without her feeling uncomfortable!. What about if it was a guy!? Would I say something different!? I really need help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I have went through something like this with my dad!. You have to be strong for her!. Don't show her that you are scared give her another reason to fight the cancer!. And don't bring up the subject to much ask her how she is feeling occasionally, but not every day!. She doen't need to be reminded of what is going on!. Just remember everybody else that knows is going to ask her all the time how she is feeling, and i know its hard not too but you have to stay positive for her and if she really wants to talk about it she will come to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She has cancer!? cause you refer to his arm!. She will go through all types of moods, anger, depression, want to talk about it all the time!. may eventually need antidepressants as this type of stress depletes neurotransmitters!. Tell her you'll be there for her!. Sometimes friendships end because of the strain on the friendship!. Give her a hug, cause she is holding alot of feelings inside and may want to cry!. Some people when told initally, have feelings of denial!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no lies, that sucks!.!.!. i would imagine that she just wants u to be the friend u alays have been and maybe help distract her from the other stuff!. ur good attitiude and joy around her should help her alotWww@Answer-Health@Com
just tell her youll be by her side no matter what!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just tell her to always pray, God has a perfect plan for each of us!. i think you should say the same thing if he was a boyWww@Answer-Health@Com
my friend has cancer too, i have watched her go through chemo and radio for a year now!. sometimes they just dont wanna talk about it coz they want to have a moment where its not on their mind
but if your friend seems like she wants to talk then say to her, look i can only imagine the pain your feeling!. I am your friend and i want to be there for you, if there is anything you want to talk about then let me know, i dont want to pressure you
the best thing you can do is let her know that your there for her if she needs you!. she will tell you in her own time when she is ready!.
hope this helps and your friend gets better, im sure u will be there for her :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
but if your friend seems like she wants to talk then say to her, look i can only imagine the pain your feeling!. I am your friend and i want to be there for you, if there is anything you want to talk about then let me know, i dont want to pressure you
the best thing you can do is let her know that your there for her if she needs you!. she will tell you in her own time when she is ready!.
hope this helps and your friend gets better, im sure u will be there for her :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I ,twelve year old, have cancer myself!.
To be a honest what I want is someone listen but I don't want to talk to some that doesn't want to listen or is uncomfortable with disusing cancer!. As you, know everyone is different!.
Maybe, you can start of with a simple question,like what of cancer do you have!? See how she or he responds!. If she is hesitant in responding don't ask too many more questions ,of course, if she's eager continue disusing it with her!.
I remember I was trying to explain my cancer to my friend to ,she was uncomfortable, she kept changing the topic!. Very awkward,I would suggest just telling her if you don't feel comfortable talk about cancer but don't just say oh, it really hurts!.Trust me!. Questions or remarks like,i dunno it amazing what the doctor can do or something, make it easier to open up for ,both sides, rather than a blank OH!.
Since she is you good friend I would trust she isn't lying to you!. As I said you're her friend and know what to trust from her!.
I wouldn't act to much different between a boy and girl,just personality to personality you talk different with even everyday conversation!. know what I mean!?
Ok now Im tired :p!.Hope it turns out well if you need more help just update the question and respond as soon as I can!.
LOve,
erica!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
To be a honest what I want is someone listen but I don't want to talk to some that doesn't want to listen or is uncomfortable with disusing cancer!. As you, know everyone is different!.
Maybe, you can start of with a simple question,like what of cancer do you have!? See how she or he responds!. If she is hesitant in responding don't ask too many more questions ,of course, if she's eager continue disusing it with her!.
I remember I was trying to explain my cancer to my friend to ,she was uncomfortable, she kept changing the topic!. Very awkward,I would suggest just telling her if you don't feel comfortable talk about cancer but don't just say oh, it really hurts!.Trust me!. Questions or remarks like,i dunno it amazing what the doctor can do or something, make it easier to open up for ,both sides, rather than a blank OH!.
Since she is you good friend I would trust she isn't lying to you!. As I said you're her friend and know what to trust from her!.
I wouldn't act to much different between a boy and girl,just personality to personality you talk different with even everyday conversation!. know what I mean!?
Ok now Im tired :p!.Hope it turns out well if you need more help just update the question and respond as soon as I can!.
LOve,
erica!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Telling her she doesn't have it when she does or looking the other way does not allow her to be herself around you!. Denial is the worst thing to do when facing a life threating illness!.
Let her know you beleive her but are struggling with knowing what to say!.Saying something like "I believe you and I've never been through anything like this before!. How can I be there for you while you are facing this!?" opens the doors for a discussion that could help her talk about the issues she's facing!. A true freind listens!. If you don't know what to say listening can be so comforting when when no words can!.
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Let her know you beleive her but are struggling with knowing what to say!.Saying something like "I believe you and I've never been through anything like this before!. How can I be there for you while you are facing this!?" opens the doors for a discussion that could help her talk about the issues she's facing!. A true freind listens!. If you don't know what to say listening can be so comforting when when no words can!.
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