Question about alcohol consumption?!
Question: is it unreasonable to ask your partner to quit the alcohol if they have lost their licence, always short of money as a result of spending it on alcohol, and highly dependent on his parents because of his lifestyle restrictions?
also how much alcohol is too much? am i being a prune for thinking that too much is 4+ beers per evening, plus 2 beers at lunchtimes and excessive quantities at weekend?
i just need to know if i am being unreasonable.
Answers: is it unreasonable to ask your partner to quit the alcohol if they have lost their licence, always short of money as a result of spending it on alcohol, and highly dependent on his parents because of his lifestyle restrictions?
also how much alcohol is too much? am i being a prune for thinking that too much is 4+ beers per evening, plus 2 beers at lunchtimes and excessive quantities at weekend?
i just need to know if i am being unreasonable.
You are not being unreasonable.
Quantity is not the measure of alcoholism but frequency.
He has a drinking problem.
Good luck with that. Try not to argue about it but realize it just the same.
The problem with alcohol is that it is not exactly like some hard drug that will completely destroy a life but rather a subtle killer that shaves away a little here a little there....
Good luck with this..... I do wish you well...
no ur not being unreasonable its good that u care about them and want to help them to stop it sounds like if ur partner quit drinking it would help them to get there life together
Alcohol addiction is now proven to be more addictive than heroin.So words will not be enough,only professional help.Do it now as alcohol addiction only goes one way,if untreated and that's more consumption
sounds like this person is an alcoholic. When it is part of your every day routine, then it's a habit. When money is all spent on it, everything you listed, then it's a problem. Don't be surprised when he doesn't quit when you ask, he sounds like an alcoholic and most likely he won't just quit!!! This isn't a good sign and indications of real future problems.
Tough situation. Asking them to 'cut back' would not be unreasonable. Asking them to quit all together is unreasonable because its not something that you can snap your fingers to stop doing. If it were me, id bring to light how much the person is drinking by literally counting their consumption in 1 week, and picking a day and sitting down with them to show them how much they drink in 1 week, and what is considered alcoholism. This would kind of be like a project... do your homework on alcoholism so you know what you are talking about when you are asking them to cut back. Print out information and bring it to light. Maybe that can be a subtle wake up call that YOU know what is going on. Good luck, you're in a tough situation.
Sounds like you have an alcoholic in your life.....ho is obviously in denial. Too much alcohol is when it begins to affect your life in any negative way. You are NOT being a prude or unreasonalble. This person needs help or it will get worse...good luck
Those are big signs of alcoholism.
Get them help.
No, you're not - but it can be hard to stop. Especially if your social life revolves around the pub.
Ask him to cut down, maybe take one or two evenings off. Start slowly.
Its only unreasonable to stay with someone who doesn't realize or is in denial that they are an alcoholic. He will definitely make you feel like you're crazy for trying to stand in between him and his precious, precious beer, but please remember you are not. The best thing to do for him is to let him go because people only change when they really want to. It would probably be the best thing for you too. Don't let him drag you down with him. Anyone who needs beer to relax, to have fun or has to drink it on a regular basis is an alcoholic. When they become dependent on it, it's too much. Please, give him the number to the nearest AA class and show him the door.
Alcoholic is such a hard word to say especially if it is refering to a loved one. Your partner at the moment seems to holding down a job, but alcoholism has a nasty habit of sneaking up on you and then giving you one hell of a bite in the ***!!He/She going by what you're saying is alcohol dependant. The biggest step is getting them to agree that its pontentially or is a problem.Speak to Alcoholics Annoymous yourself, your partner dosen't need to know. If you are alcohol dependant its actually quite dangerous to just stop drinking. Your local GP can help with medication, where you do stop the alcohol consumption, but have a substitute, bit like methadone for heroin addictiions.This is not an easy route, it means a complete lifestyle change. Only the person with the problem can make this decision to quit.If your partner goes with getting help, you will have to demonstrate the patience of a saint and selective deafness, because they will be as snarly,snappy and unreasonable as a juvenile!! Good luck my heart felt beat wishes are with you X
If your reasoning is that your partner drinks excessively, then yes he does.
If your reasoning is that he should stop, its unreasonable: you cannot tell or make anyone do anything unless its of thier choice- its not your life it is theirs and they still have thier choices, its hard but the reality is that no one recovers without making the choice to recover themselves, not because someone else tells or advises them to.
Sometimes you just gotta wait and stand by. Its ahrd to watch someone falling apart but having someojne get better for you, then relaspe when you disappear or have a row or fall out, or whatever, is far worse, and causes much more mess.
To much is anything over 10 pints a week. I am afraid you are talking many times that and comfortably in to the level of chronic alcoholism. Bad news, people don't often just stop. They deny they have a problem often for many years and lose family, friends and jobs.
To solve a problem like this he needs to admit he has a problem, genuinely want to stop and seek help to do so.
no you are not been unreasonable about it.and it is to much if you lose your licence ect.