Would This Be Totally Terrible??!
Question: Would This Be Totally Terrible!?!?
i am a 14 year old girl!. My personailty isn't the greatest, i kind of have an attitude problem which i am working on!.
I suppose i have a nice body i feel i need to lose a few pounds and shape up but many guys say they would give anything to feel me up or just see my boobs (36DD)
Many guys think I am just a quiet well mannered girl who never does anything wrong and my body is going to waste on me
i don't have a postitive female role model as my mother is dead and all my aunts aren't the best people
i desperatley want to rebel against everyone and everything
especially my father
i want to party and drink and smoke and sleep around
i think this would make me happy
i have recently decided to not smoke (not like the taste) or drink (i cannot control myself when i drink, a little goes a long way and i usually end up wasted)
but i can't seem to find a reason not to have sex
there is a boy who wants to have sex with me and i think it would be a rush b/c i would be hiding it from everyone and sneaking around
we aren't in love i just want to have sex and i wouldn't be using him b/c i know he isn't into a relationship either (just sex friends)
i am a virgin and i want to lose my virginity
i know i will regret it in the future and i don't really care because i'm going to have many regrets
Is this an incredibly wrong way to rebel!?
any sugguestions on other ways i can rebel!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I suppose i have a nice body i feel i need to lose a few pounds and shape up but many guys say they would give anything to feel me up or just see my boobs (36DD)
Many guys think I am just a quiet well mannered girl who never does anything wrong and my body is going to waste on me
i don't have a postitive female role model as my mother is dead and all my aunts aren't the best people
i desperatley want to rebel against everyone and everything
especially my father
i want to party and drink and smoke and sleep around
i think this would make me happy
i have recently decided to not smoke (not like the taste) or drink (i cannot control myself when i drink, a little goes a long way and i usually end up wasted)
but i can't seem to find a reason not to have sex
there is a boy who wants to have sex with me and i think it would be a rush b/c i would be hiding it from everyone and sneaking around
we aren't in love i just want to have sex and i wouldn't be using him b/c i know he isn't into a relationship either (just sex friends)
i am a virgin and i want to lose my virginity
i know i will regret it in the future and i don't really care because i'm going to have many regrets
Is this an incredibly wrong way to rebel!?
any sugguestions on other ways i can rebel!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I'll let you know right now that you're not gonna like this post!. But I identify with you so I'm gonna venture a statement here!. I think you are bored out of your mind and someone (parents maybe) or someone (u thought they were a friend) has made you angry and you are tired of playing the sweet little kid that everyone knows and loves!. I would suggest instead of rebeling and ending up with a police record, I'd talk to a school counselor or someone else you trust and try and get to the deeper issue here!. You need to find out WHY you are feeling these feelings, why those feelings are the emotions that will magically work all your issues out!. Let me paint you a picture!. Ready: Here goes:
"Its a Friday night and you and some friends are headed over to another friends house!. You get there late and the party is in full swing!. You and your friend get separated almost as soon as you both arrive!. Three or four of these "guys" that want to see you approach you with booze and ganja!. You begin to smoke and drink and you're starting to find that your ability to tell the difference between good and bad is starting to get blurred!. Then you find yourself waking up!. It's been hours but seems like only moments!. You find that you are half naked in someones bedroom in a house that you don't even recognize!. There's blood everywhere b/c they've raped you!. But b/c they are jerks, they didn't use protection and they could've passed on Syphlis and Chlamydia!. Now what!? You have to go to the hospital and get rape kit done and then they have to test your blood to make sure that the diseases didn't make it into your blood stream only to find out it did!."
You started off this night as a confused and bored teenager with good grades and an honor student!. Now you are a recluse, b/c everyones starring at you b/c you're the one that got Joe and Jim Football kicked out of school because they were arrested for the rape!. The next six months of your life will be blood test after blood test to see if HIV is present and to see if the other diseases are finally inactive!.
Find some other way to rebel!. PLEASE, PLEASE find some other way to rebel!. A safer way if you will!.
Other wise, if you start the things that you've mentioned, you'll be on a fast moving downward spiral!. Those are hard to recover from!.
Again, not trying to be preachy by any stretch of the imagination!. I was preached at all 20 years I lived with my parents!. So I certainly don't want to do the same to you!. Having gone down that road a little myself, I see myself in you and hope that you will take the words of this stranger typing into her computer at 10:45 at night to heart and think about it!. Hope I helped!. Email me if you want to talk more!.
Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
"Its a Friday night and you and some friends are headed over to another friends house!. You get there late and the party is in full swing!. You and your friend get separated almost as soon as you both arrive!. Three or four of these "guys" that want to see you approach you with booze and ganja!. You begin to smoke and drink and you're starting to find that your ability to tell the difference between good and bad is starting to get blurred!. Then you find yourself waking up!. It's been hours but seems like only moments!. You find that you are half naked in someones bedroom in a house that you don't even recognize!. There's blood everywhere b/c they've raped you!. But b/c they are jerks, they didn't use protection and they could've passed on Syphlis and Chlamydia!. Now what!? You have to go to the hospital and get rape kit done and then they have to test your blood to make sure that the diseases didn't make it into your blood stream only to find out it did!."
You started off this night as a confused and bored teenager with good grades and an honor student!. Now you are a recluse, b/c everyones starring at you b/c you're the one that got Joe and Jim Football kicked out of school because they were arrested for the rape!. The next six months of your life will be blood test after blood test to see if HIV is present and to see if the other diseases are finally inactive!.
Find some other way to rebel!. PLEASE, PLEASE find some other way to rebel!. A safer way if you will!.
Other wise, if you start the things that you've mentioned, you'll be on a fast moving downward spiral!. Those are hard to recover from!.
Again, not trying to be preachy by any stretch of the imagination!. I was preached at all 20 years I lived with my parents!. So I certainly don't want to do the same to you!. Having gone down that road a little myself, I see myself in you and hope that you will take the words of this stranger typing into her computer at 10:45 at night to heart and think about it!. Hope I helped!. Email me if you want to talk more!.
Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow!. No offense babe, but you're turning yourself into a sl*t, and you ARE going to have regrets in your future whether you did drugs or got pregnant, or just wished you would have waited to have sex!. Don't do this to yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well u say u have a nice body an DD so i would go with be a whore!! i agree smoking is nasty too
Drinking is the funnest way to get down tooWww@Answer-Health@Com
Drinking is the funnest way to get down tooWww@Answer-Health@Com
rebel all you want but don't ***** and moan if you get pregnant or HIV, you did it to yourself hussyWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you already think you'll regret it you are not should not do it!. At the end of the day, when you get older you have to answer to yourself so rebelling against your father (though we all do it) really does nothing!. If you already drinking at 14, I'd say you were rebelling anyway!. You can do well in school and still mess up in life so be careful but do things for better reasons than spiteWww@Answer-Health@Com