I have such low self-esteem and not enjoying life?!
Question: I have such low self-esteem and not enjoying life!?
I am 14, 5'1!. I know this is the age when people have self confidence issues!. And i feel like that now!. I live with my mom and step father(alcoholic!.) I will say, I do get alot, I am getting a class ring this year (sophomore) and he does give us money towards house savings in bank but he is extremely strict and controling!. I am overweight, I weight 126 right now, I still have fat all over my body, I just lost 35 pounds in the past 8 months but it still doesnt seem like enough!. I dont get attention from boys, I get so stressed from school!. All my friends are skinnier than me so I am the fat one out of us!. I have never had a boyfriend!. Most my friends had already had sex and I havent even kissed a guy yet!. I cant wait to be 18 and move out, I get B's in school but dont want to go to college!. And I didnt tell my parents I wasnt becuase they are expecting me too!. They will probably end up forcing me to go anyways!. Everyone is saying that if I dont go to college I wont make any money but I dont want to be in $60,000 of dept just from school when I am 30 years old!. I am going to search for a job as soon as I turn 15!. I am the youngest student in my sophmore class whih sucks becuase I cant get my drivers licence and cant get a good job!. I just feel like fast-forwarding to 18 and being an adult, I am so tired of not being able to be on my own and not being attractive!. I'd post a pic but I feel uncomfortable doing so!. Please help me with advice!. I know I can only wait but is there anything that I could do to help!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You're 5'1"tall 126 lbs about average lost 35lbs so you did weigh 160, but not now!.!.!.
Never had a bf or get attention, yet you won't take the initiative to talk to them either!.!.!.
Haven't had sex, but haven't gotten pregnant either or caught something you couldn't get rid of!.!.!.
Above average intelligence ( Bs,not Cs),somewhat motivated, and somewhat level-headed!.!.!.and you probably read books!.!.!.!.!.
That's all positive stuff I gleaned from what you wrote, and I could conjecture more!.!.
My guess would be if you started an exercise program, and toned up all that baby fat, you would be a lot happier with yourself!.!.!.!.
Start taking control of your life!.!.do your own laundry, get your mom to teach you how to cook, get toned up, set your style,!.!.!.!.
instead of thinking about what you don't want to do, concentrate on what you do want to do,and start working towards it!.!.!.!.!.!.
think positive, instead of negative!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Never had a bf or get attention, yet you won't take the initiative to talk to them either!.!.!.
Haven't had sex, but haven't gotten pregnant either or caught something you couldn't get rid of!.!.!.
Above average intelligence ( Bs,not Cs),somewhat motivated, and somewhat level-headed!.!.!.and you probably read books!.!.!.!.!.
That's all positive stuff I gleaned from what you wrote, and I could conjecture more!.!.
My guess would be if you started an exercise program, and toned up all that baby fat, you would be a lot happier with yourself!.!.!.!.
Start taking control of your life!.!.do your own laundry, get your mom to teach you how to cook, get toned up, set your style,!.!.!.!.
instead of thinking about what you don't want to do, concentrate on what you do want to do,and start working towards it!.!.!.!.!.!.
think positive, instead of negative!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't rush to be an adult all thing come in there due time!. Exercise and diet can do a lot for weight problems but don't stress about it to much perseverance in the things you want in life will help you along your journey into adulthood!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I want to focus on your strong points it seems like you know what you want in life which is good!. And it seems like you are good student, not everyone needs to be a strait A student!.
As for boys sometimes they only make things complicated!. Im not gonna give you the "you dont need a boyfriend to complete you" speech!.
Just try to be yourself around the guys!. Sometimes you do have to get away from your hometown to find somone who actually fits who you are and your personality!.
Sometimes going to a councelor helps, maybe you can go talk to someone!.
I hope everything works out for you!. Good luck sweetieWww@Answer-Health@Com
As for boys sometimes they only make things complicated!. Im not gonna give you the "you dont need a boyfriend to complete you" speech!.
Just try to be yourself around the guys!. Sometimes you do have to get away from your hometown to find somone who actually fits who you are and your personality!.
Sometimes going to a councelor helps, maybe you can go talk to someone!.
I hope everything works out for you!. Good luck sweetieWww@Answer-Health@Com
I just have to say this!. Be glad that God can wake you up everyday to go to school!. There are some teenagers who worry about what is there next meal going to be, or when is the next time they're going to get a jacket for these cold winters!. Don't rush life!. Before you know it, you're going to wish you were a teen again!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have so much to look forward to!. At 14 I didn't even know what I wanted!. You have lost 35 pounds!. You should feel great about that! Don't worry about the sex thing! That can wait!. Well, it should! College is not for everyone!. I went to a trade school and am doing allright!. I enjoy my life as a chef and meat cutter!. Don't try to grow up so fast!. It will only hurt you in the long run!. Take your time and think first!Www@Answer-Health@Com