How to get my parents to understand my drug/alcohol problem?!
Question: How to get my parents to understand my drug/alcohol problem?
Answers:
I think you need some professional help here. Its not a failing to screw up in life, but your parents will be reacting at the moment in anger because they will be feeling that they have failed YOU. In their eyes, they have brought you up and cannot believe that you have managed to get yourself into trouble, so they have failed in keeping you out of harms way. We react physically to a feeling of failure and guilt, our heart rate quickens, adrenaline surges, our muscles tighten and get ready for a fight, often the only way to release that is to shout, and unfortunately the object of their feeling of guilt is you. In shouting at you they are kicking themselves, they won't be able to understand right now whatever you say.
You need to find someone, I am assuming as you have been suspended from school (is this the case?) that you are in contact with social services, perhaps even a counselling service? If not, find one, your own doctors surgery can help, they will be perfectly prepared to speak to you in private, you do not have to have your parents present, you can insist on that. Be honest, tell them your fears, perhaps print this question out for yourself, sometimes its easier to write down your feelings rather than try to verbalise them, ask for someone to mediate between yourself and your parents, perhaps even see if you can get some help away from your parents for a while, there are many drug and alcohol rehabilitation schemes, and for youngsters much younger than yourself, that way you could get to deal with your problems without having to deal with the rest of lifes problems, such as communicating with your family, facing your friends etc, then you will be stronger to face them.
At the end of the day, we can only get angry with the people we love and care about, your parents obviously love you, but they don't know what to do, you need to take the lead, you need to find a way of communicating, it isn't going to happen so easily without some outside help, so go get it, face up to your actions, there are going to be consequences, but, eventually, you will be facing them WITH your parents, not without them, and that is why you are going to be OK, because you care about your parents (else you wouldn't have posted this) and they care about you.
If you need to chat, feel free to contact me through here, good luck and stay strong..