How do I cope with being abandoned (or Adopted if you want to sugarcoat it)?!
Question: How do I cope with being abandoned (or Adopted if you want to sugarcoat it)?
The real question isn't how do I cope? The real question is how do I go into the nothing after death? HOW DO I END MY LIFE?
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oh, im sorry you feel so sad x It must be a difficult thing to deal with. my mother abandoned me when i was 11 so i know what it is to feel unloved. I made a lot of mistakes after she left, things i regret to this day, (im 25 now) its easy to get lost when you feel like that, especially during the teenage years when hormones make things much more confusing. The thing i think you need to remember is that there could have been many reasons your birth mother felt she couldn't raise you herself, most of them not including her not loving you and none of them being at all your fault. xx
People chose to adopt for many reasons too, mostly i imagine, because they have love to offer a child, you. I'm sure your parents love you. A parent is the person who raises and cares for the child, these days that isn't necessarily the birth parents.
A lesson i took too long to learn is that our lives are just that, our own. we get handed our parents and many circumstances but it is up to us how we chose to live. we can be angry at the world or the people that hurt us or we can chose to live our own lives in whatever way makes us happy. The main point im trying to make is you have a choice and the power to live a happy life. I really hope you dont waste as much time as i did before learning that.
I tried killing myself as well, i'm so glad now that i didnt succeed. you never know what is around the corner, life is exciting for that reason.
I dont know how old you are or how long you have been with your parents but im sure even if its only been a short while, they consider you to be their child, they wouldnt adopt if thats not what they wanted. talk to them, talk to friends even teachers. i bet there are plenty of people who care about what happens to you. xx
Claire (email me if you need to rant at someone anonymous) x
Sounds like you have some serious issues that you need to discuss with- and learn how to deal with- a therapist. I am not saying that your problems are not real but you need to learn how to deal with bad things in your life. To continuing to have these anger issues with your "parents" is only going to hurt YOU in the end and you deserve better than this!
The question is not about ending your life, the question is making it work. EVERBODY falls through hardship, no matter how rich or poor. We just have to deal with it, it's part of life. 'End of life' for what? Go ahead and do what you want to do. We only go around once.
Hun don't worry!!! :( How about try counseling?