It's a sex question. Please mature women with experience help me.?!
Question: I have been seeing a guy. We have a lot of fun together and it's a casual sexual thing. He's very very kinky and keeps making all these suggestions about spanking me or "naughty girls need a good beating", that sort of thing. I'm not scared of him, I'm scared of myself... because I think I want him to, and I enjoy all the other things he's done to me (handcuff me, bite me, things like that) What should I do to make sure I really do enjoy this? And if I do enjoy it...is that strange? I'm only 19 and I'm very new to all this and would like to hear from someone with experience please.
Answers: I have been seeing a guy. We have a lot of fun together and it's a casual sexual thing. He's very very kinky and keeps making all these suggestions about spanking me or "naughty girls need a good beating", that sort of thing. I'm not scared of him, I'm scared of myself... because I think I want him to, and I enjoy all the other things he's done to me (handcuff me, bite me, things like that) What should I do to make sure I really do enjoy this? And if I do enjoy it...is that strange? I'm only 19 and I'm very new to all this and would like to hear from someone with experience please.
well u have to get into the same mind set as he is. u gotta get dirty like he wants u to be to enjoy it. make urself that naughty gurl. it will turn him on even more and youll have fun wit it too. say lil dirty comments to him when you too are..u know..
and no its not weird that you enjoy it. i had a bf that would bite my shoulder and i LOVED it. lol. it was a big turn on. its just called being kinky. there isnt nething wrong with it. so just get into the act wit him and you'll enjoy it more.
Everyone has different fantasies and things that get them off. If you enjoy doing it, and get off over it, then i guess you like it? There is nothing wrong with that! Think about those people that get off over people peeing on them, that should make you feel less strange :)!
If you want to know if you enjoy it, tell him to do these things slowly, and make sure you have a code word so that if you start to feel uncomfortable you can use the code word and discontinue whatever you are doing.
It's not strange; everyone is different in what they prefer in bed.
well just go along with it. don't be scared. and in order to enjoy it you have to be really confortable with him. that helps a lot! you can maybe have a few drinks to loosen you up. have fun and enjoy. good luck!
If you really want to do this and you really trust him, talk to him about it at a time you are not in the middle of something sexual. Talk about your boundaries...what is absolutely off-limits? Typically people have a "safe word" in case somebody is uncomfortable with what is going on ...it is agreed upon that if they use the word, the other person stops immediately.
There is a pretty strong S & M community, so it can't be that strange (although I am certain some will argue that point).
There are different levels of it. B & D stands for bondage and discipline...it is a lighter form of it (biting and handcuffs fall into this catagory). I can't give specifics because it has been a while since I dabbled in it ( I actually went to an underground S & M club in NYC when I was a little younger than you are now...very interesting experience).
Just a quick tip...stocking work great as restraints and they are way more comfortable than handcuffs.
It's not strange if you like it. Personally it's not my thing. You should set a limit ahead. Let him know how far you are willing to go. There may be things he has in mind that you might find offensive. Some people are into humiliation. Be it verbal or physical. Have a frank discussion with him about what does he have in mind. Some people have let themselves get tied up and gaged not being able to get loose. The other has taken advantage and done all sorts of things. Some the tied person wasn't in approval of. Things can get carried away. If this is a man you trust not to cross the line. Then fine have fun.
If you're not comfortable with him doing things to you, don't let him. Only do what you're comfortable with. If you wanna see if you like it tell him to try it once in a while, however he needs to know his limits too.
Go for it. Just set a safeword or STOP command so he knows that when you say it, he needs to stop everything right away and release you.