Orgasm and Masturbation?!
Question: What is an orgasm and how do i know when i get one
Is maturbation good, as in does it have any heath benefits and if so what is the best way to masturbate
Answers: What is an orgasm and how do i know when i get one
Is maturbation good, as in does it have any heath benefits and if so what is the best way to masturbate
ORGASM :
An orgasm is the peak of your sexual arousal.
To get all accademic here is the orgasm descripton from dictionary.com;
"The physical and emotional sensation experienced at the peak of sexual excitation, usually resulting from stimulation of the sexual organ and usually accompanied in the male by ejaculation."
That's not to say that you can only orgasm by stimulating your sexual organs (you can orgasm from touching other places, or just by thinking about something that really sexually excites you), that orgasm is the goal of sex (sex is sometimes much better without orgasm), that orgasm has to happen during sex (just because someone doesn't orgasm does not mean it's not sex), that men have to ejaculate when they orgasm (men don't have to ejaculate during orgasm), or that women don't ejaculate during orgasm (a lot of women ejaculate just like men do).
You get phases of orgasm;
* Arousal when your body starts to change so your breathing and heart rate increases, your clitoris becomes errect, your vagina becomes larger and lubricates.
* Plateau which is when the muscles in your body tensen as the sexual feelings intensify.
* Orgasm is when it reaches it's peak, when the tension in your body is released.
* Resolution, this is when your body starts to turn back to normal, to before you became aroused both physically and emotionally.
Basically it is the very peak of your sexual arousal, it feels very good, sometimes like a wave of pleasure accross your body and by that point you are probably breathing very deeply and your heart will be beating very fast, say if you are masturbating there is a certain point where it feels it's best after which you might feel like stopping or feeling like you need to get to that point again, that point is orgasm - it's just something you just know.
MASTURBATION :
Masturbation is a very good thing, it's the most normal thing you can do, it's totally natural for all people of all ages, in fact even babies still in their mothers womb even masturbate as it is a good way to relax and to connect with yourself by making yourself feel good.
Masturbation is a safe form of sex with either yourself, or when you are older with someone else, as it means no contact between genitals so little risk of STI's or pregnancy. Masturbation is a great way to learn about your body and how to have sex by exploring your body and how your body likes to be touched, learning what makes you feel good so that you can make yourself happy and when you are old enough to have a sexual partner you can show them how you like to be touched so you can enjoy sex more.
Masturbation is also great for girls and women because it can help reduce their menstrual cramps and PMS by relaxing their body, the increase stimulation to their vaginas and vulvas mean that cramps are reduced and the increased blood flow can induce your periods or help induce misscarriage if needed.
No one can tell you the best way to masturbate as it is such a personal thing, only you know what feels best for you, how best to touch yourself to make it feel good.
Most girls and women stroke the head of their clitoris and use fingers or other things inside themselves, some will only use fingers inside themselves, some will only play with their clit, some will use toys where as some wont, some will use different objects, some will hit their clit where as others would find that painful - it's totally about what works best for you!
CLITORIS :
The clit is the clitoris, this is a part of your vagina, it is about 2-3 inches long and forked on one end, the other end is at the top or front of your vulva (outside part of your genitals) which is called the head of the clitoris. It's a little like a penis in that it becomes errect when you are aroused, it has a load of little nerves in the tip to make it enjoyable to touch so sex is more fun.
If you get yourself in a comfortable position laying down but with your back against something then you can get a mirror and take a closer look at your genitals, if you look near the front/top of your genitals you will see a little lump, sometimes covered by a bit of skin we call the 'clitoral hood', it's about the size of a pea and sensitive to touch, that is your clitoris.
It's easy to reach and most girls touch this when they masturbate as this bit feels the best when touched.
This is an image of your vulva, shows you where the clitoris is - http://www.3dvulva.com/diagrams/diag-vul...
This is an image of the clitoris - http://www.3dvulva.com/diagrams/diagram-... This is an animation of the vulva and the clitoris that will show you where the clitoris is within your vagina - http://www.3dvulva.com/h_vulva2.htm (use the arrow near the top right hand side to move the animation around) or there is this site that shows a good image of your clitoris in the vagina/vulva - http://www.medicalarts.com.au/media/gall...
There is an entry on Wikipedia about the clitoris http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris but I'd also recomend the web site http://www.the-clitoris.com because it is full of very interesting and important information, another good web site is Scarleteen, if you look at this part of the site it will tell you about your vagina and vulva http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/a... - this site will answer your question perfectly!!
G-SPOT :
The g-spot is the Gr?fenberg spot (named after the person who found it and named it), it is about two inches into your vagina (inside your body) on the front/top wall, it feels sort of spongy and is good to be touched.
A lot of girls and women don't feel much when this area is touched, some people find it feels much better the older they get as their bodies develope or as they learn new ways of being touched or touching themselves - when it is touched it results in strong orgasms, it is often the only way some women can ejaculate.
Wikipedia has more information about the G-spot here - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot - but I don't think it is very easy to understand, The Clitoris web site also talks about it here - http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/fr_in... or Scarleteen again here - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice...
You should check out these sites to learn more;
http://www.scarleteen.com - Scarleteen is a fantastic site aimed at teens but most adults I know love it too!
http://www.myvag.net - this is a casual site with lots of day-to-day information on vaginas.
http://www.vaginapagina.com - online community all about vaginal health with lots of information.
http://www.vaginaverite.com - lots of information on vaginas and vulvas, not-so-common ideas.
http://www.teenwire.com - a site from planed parenthood about sex and sexual health.
http://www.sexetc.org - a web site created by and for teens about sexual health and sex.
http://www.the-clitoris.com - lots of information about your sexual anatomy.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health... - information for children and teens on puberty.
Oh, and ignore people making comments about your age, this is the sort of thing someone should have told you about already a long time ago.
If you are young then you need to know and your parents may not have had the good sense to tell you already and you may not have had sex education (which is useless anyway!).
If even babies masturbate then it's not exactly like masturbation is an adult-only thing, plus your clit and g-spot are part of your body, it only makes sense you learn about what they are and what they are there for.
If no one has told you about these things yet then it is good that you ask, and would be even better if you go learn for yourself from web sites and books you can trust.
you will know, when you feel it, hun. yes it's good it feels good, releases tension and stress, the best way for a girl to masturbate is to rub her clit and labia and perhaps even stick your fingers in your...you know...you'll get all wet and hot and bothered and love it!
If you have an orgasm you will know it. Masturbation is normal. To find out where those spots are do a search for a female gential diagram and look at it. Take a hand mirror and look at your own body and learn where all your female parts are located so you can identify each one. Also to learm more about masturbation you can do a web search for info.
You cant be for real!!!!!!
You could read this link, it has some helpful tips.
Masturbation is fine. Just get your finger wet and rub "down there." My friends talk about it.
you will know......
how old are you 1st and foremost?!
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are you old enought to ask this question?
a orgasm is a very intense and pleasurable experience. you will know when you do. the best way to masturbate. is to be completely relaxed. the start stimulating your clitoris. which is situited athe top of your vigina. good luck.
Wait til you're atleast 12 to ask these kinds of questions.
ask when you are older little girl
trust me when you get one you WILL know
havent you had sex ed yet?
Hey How old are you 12 you will find all this out and a lot more as time goes by don't worry it will all happen OH an organism you will know honey you will know you will quiver from head to foot